So those of you who followed my other thread know I ordered the following engagement ring (platinum): http://www.jamesallen.com/engagement-rings/solitaire/round-solitaire-diamond-rings.html While I'm still a week or so out from receiving it, I'm looking now at wedding bands since those are next up. I couldn't care less what mine is, it could be a $90 titanium one and I'd be plenty happy. But I know hers has to do a decent job of matching the engagement ring since they are worn together. The recommended match from the jeweler for the engagement ring above is the following: http://www.jamesallen.com/wedding-and-anniversary/Ladies-Diamond-Rings/ring/item_493-3672.asp I was a bit surprised; what I know of bands (or at least her band) is that it should match the metal type, so platinum, and that it should be as close in width as possible to the engagement ring; you don't want to go drastically bigger because the rings will look unbalanced, and probably take away from the center stone in the engagement ring. Beyond those two things, I have no idea if there are any general rules of thumb or not. I realize it's up to us so anything is fine, but are there general rules of thumb for how to match the wedding/engagement ring? The reason I was surprised is because her engagement ring is a solitaire, and the recommended match is a pave with extra diamonds; it seems to me that would take away from the engagement ring, so I was thinking maybe as a rule of thumb solitaires are to be matched with plain bands, paves with pave bands, etc., but I can't substantiate this anywhere on google. On the vein of the above recommendation, I'm also wondering why the following isn't a recommended match; it's the exact same ring, but it has a few more diamonds and is closer in size to her engagement ring (2.3mm vs 2.7mm): http://www.jamesallen.com/wedding-and-anniversary/Ladies-Diamond-Rings/ring/item_493-3675.asp I can understand why they probably chose the above kind of style as a match; the edges/profile of the ring are very similar/sharp/defined like the engagement ring...but I'm curious about recommending a pave wedding band for a solitaire ring. Any rules of thumb? Also are wedding bands generally surprises for each other or do couples usually shop for these and buy them together? Also is there something to be said about buying the engagement and wedding bands from the same jeweler? I get 10% off my bands at James Allen since I bought the engagement ring there. Not sure if people mix jewelers or not.