BiggAW, I have had some strangeness when unplugging my external display at times. Sometimes closing and opening the laptop (and therefore putting the display to sleep and waking it up) a couple times works. It seems like my problem lies in opening the laptop and unplugging the display cable before the machine realizes how many displays are attached.
Have you tried using another video adapter? Does your monitor have a DVI input or just the VGA input?
Almost always, but what does that have to do with it?
I'm saying that your experiences with your machine do not help the OP, since his hardware is physically different than yours and certain configurations that work on your computer cannot function and never will function on OP's machine. In this case, the integrated graphics in 15s and 17s is
not physically wired to the ThunderBolt/MiniDP port, whereas it is on the 13" model, like the one you own. So your input doesn't seem relevant. At least, the input you have presented us so far (if I understand you correctly).