Extracting files into existing folders WITHOUT destroying them

This is the one thing I absolutely, positively cannot stand about OS X. Ever since I switched I've loved every minute of it and broken all of my bad Windows habits, except for the desire to be able to extract a complex Zip archive into an existing folder structure without completely replacing the folders that are there. It pisses me off that OS X can't do this, and it costs me a lot of time because then I have to manually place all of the files in the Zip archive into the appropriate folders by hand. I've Googled for a solution and have only found some half-baked scripts that sort of work. I would love to find a way to change this behavior in the GUI. Any help or suggested workarounds is appreciated so I can stop using my Windows box to extract Zip archives.