part of the problem for me, i think, is the LED backlighting, brightness being one issue. i read that LEDs are hard to dim, so what they would do is have them flash on and off at a high frequency, to simulate, say 50% brightness. supposedly some people are more sensitive to this and the flashing results in eyestrain, headaches, etc. however, i don't know if this method is still used, or if its used on the MBA
Mojo1, I think not the pixel density is a problem for you. It is the flickering or the way pixels are displayed to you.
Flickering is the on and off of the background led. Typical leds flicker at a high frequency, although a low frequency is used in cheaper background led backlights. You can't see the flicker as your eyes can not see anything higher than around 100 Hz (100 images per minute). But your eyes can adapt to dark and bright up to a much higher frequency. In this case, while you see nothing going on, your eyes are working tremendously. This gives you a headache.
Also the way pixels are displayed to you is important. How is the layer above the panel (anti-glare, only a little bit anti-glare)? All matte displays have this additional layer. And likely the airs because they are not really glare. There are lots of different approaches of displaying pixels as TN (used in the air), MVA, IPS and so on. Within these approaches, you find also differences.