Facebook Etiquette

Discussion in 'Community Discussion' started by Surely, Mar 2, 2010.

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Who should say "hello" first?

  1. The person making the friend request

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  2. The person accepting the friend request

    4 vote(s)
    18.2%
  1. Surely Guest

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    #1
    When someone requests to be your friend on facebook, and you accept, who should say the first "hello"? The person who makes the request, or the person who accepts?

    What's the etiquette here?



    /man I hate facebook......:rolleyes:
     
  2. MacDawg macrumors P6

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    If it is that difficult to decide... just decline the invitation :)
     
  3. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    Is there any etiquette? Really, if someone requests to be your friend are you even to follow up? I see no point. Honestly to me FB is a way of showing a list of people who were not your friends in say high school or college, yet in your 30's they have this burning desire to be your friend? I see no point. I have no friends and yet I cannot be compelled to have FB friends.

    Wait, what was the question?
     
  4. RITZFit macrumors 65816

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    is it someone you want to talk to in the first place? just post something... anything! It need not be formal. Otherwise just chalk another one up on your friend count :D
     
  5. Surely thread starter Guest

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    I can't.

    These are people that I used to know, and they are friends with people that I'm friends with. I am apt to bump into them at some point in the future.

    These aren't random strangers that are friends with my friends.
     
  6. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    I say you write on their wall in all caps some crazy message. If they are really your friend they'll forgive you and if not, they'll de-friend you and life will move on.
     
  7. MacDawg macrumors P6

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    Hmmmmm, we are very different then
    I have a page of "friend requests" of people I know that I have not acted on, and I feel no compelling reason why I should
    FB is a tool, and a pretty lame one in my opinion, but it doesn't hold me hostage
     
  8. Surely thread starter Guest

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    If these were random people, I would just ignore it.

    These are people I was friends with, or hung out with, back in high school/undergrad/camp.

    I hate the friend count thing. I'd bet that I've been added by people for the sole reason of bumping up their friend count. These are the people who don't say hello.....
     
  9. Surely thread starter Guest

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    It's not that I'm debating on accepting or not. I have no problem with accepting their request.... I'm not an active wall guy, so it's not like these people that I don't really care much for are going to know what I do day-to-day. If I want to send a message to someone, I do it privately. I just use facebook because it's all of my connections in one place.

    The way I see it, if I request to be someone's friend, I should be the one to say "hello" once they accept.....
     
  10. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    Still thinking the crazy message is a good idea. Weaves out the peeps who aren't really your friends. True friends see past your crazy.
     
  11. RITZFit macrumors 65816

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    I've done that too...the reactions were priceless :cool: .
     
  12. MacDawg macrumors P6

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    Then do it... say "hello" :)
    But I don't really think people give it that much thought
    They are pretty busy playing Farmville or Mafia Wars, so it may take them a little while to say "hi" back
     
  13. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    Look, it is facebook, what do you have to lose?
     
  14. Surely thread starter Guest

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    Oh, I have...... I'm not a shy person.

    I'm not stressing over it, I just thought it would be interesting to see what others think.

    My opinion is that the person making the request should say hello.
     
  15. RITZFit macrumors 65816

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    yup, in that sense FB is somewhat of a joke. I have tons of requests from people I really don't know/ hardly remember. Although I have to admit, I have found a FEW old friends through FB that I've reconnected w/
     
  16. MacDawg macrumors P6

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    I certainly don't see a problem with that

    But on the other hand, I can see someone responding to the invitation and promptly saying "hi" once that connection is made... instead of pushing the button to accept the invite and waiting like "ball is back in your court"

    If it is someone I want to talk to, I will say "hello" regardless
    If it is just a token acceptance, just out of necessity, I would probably wait and hope they never said anything

    I know... I am awful :(
     
  17. Surely thread starter Guest

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    Same here. To me, I'd rather take "the risk" of accepting just in case we actually do reconnect. A couple of people I would now consider good friends were the result of reconnection on facebook.

    Haha.... not at all..... I'd say I do the same thing.

    I guess we're not that different after all.....


    /sorry about the double posts......
     
  18. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    Ummm if you have to look them up in a high school yearbook (I have) then they're not worth accepting as your friend.
     
  19. Zombie Acorn macrumors 65816

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    just accept.. i don't see what the problem is.
     
  20. Surely thread starter Guest

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    ^^^^ That's not the question.


    I typically ignore people like that.

    No, it's not "those type of people";). These are people that I knew and spent some time with.
     
  21. rhett7660 macrumors G4

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    I love this idea. Lets see who is really my friend and who is just a collector of friends! Ha....


    "So I was in prison......" :D
     
  22. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    I swear it will really weave out the non-friends. If you do it and do not get at least one odd-negative response I will send you $10.
     
  23. anjinha macrumors 604

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    When I add friends or accept friends on FB neither of us usually says anything, unless we actually have something to say. You don't need to say "hello", just accept them.
     
  24. iOrlando macrumors 68000

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    i rarely request friends on facebook. if people want to add me they usually put the request in and I will look into the matter. I normally decline 70-80% of requests.
     
  25. MacDawg macrumors P6

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    What a shock
     

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