Agreed. I have very limited “negative” posters on my feed. No politicians, no journalists, no “friends” that post conspiracy theories. I am much happier that way. What I have is mostly fitness stuff and some sport related accounts.
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Exactly.
I follow journalists (people who would be described as "serious" journalists, not all of them political), and some writers, and politicians, and historians, and indeed, academics - among others.
Some of their tweets have drawn my attention to amazing articles, or interesting ideas or fascinating nuggets of knowledge.
For example: This week, I came across a tweet (with an accompanying map, - of the relevant respective land or sea routes, sketched on a map of the parts of the world described by this concept, Asia, Europe, some of Africa- adding further clarification, explanation and exposition to the initial thought) which read: "If tea spread to your country by sea you call it tea, if it spread by land you call it chai. This is because the ports of Fujian and Taiwan use the coastal pronunciation "te", whereas Mandarin uses "chá""
I sat and stared, and studied this with rapt and thrilled attention, awed and amazed, and absolutely fascinated: I won't hide the fact that I realised that I was beaming at that computer screen.
Now, I hadn't known that this question (why this difference between the root words of "tea" and "chai" exists) had been asked by my (unconscious) mind, but it had, and I was delighted beyond description to have been blessed with an explanation which made complete sense.
This wouldn't have shown up in my time line if I hadn't already shown an interest in history, literature, and the study of where words come from and how they arise.
Anyway, agreed; Negative stuff (even from those on "my own side") is something I do not welcome these days; I want people of good will, positive and generous and thoughtful and kind in my life.
And also present in my online world.
And that is a choice I can choose to make.
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I think one of the factors driving at least technological FOMO is the worry that the tech you bought yesterday is suddenly worthless when the next new thing is launched tomorrow. In reality it still does exactly the same thing it did when you bought it. At least for a while. For the last ten years (arguably more), computers have been so good that Average Joe would never need to update them for about twenty years. So hardware and firmware mfrs like Apple (whose income relies on you buying new hardware) force obsolescence by launching OS's which won't run on your still perfectly serviceable elderly computer, and they justify their decision by claiming their new OS needs certain hardware your computer doesn't have. The real truth is, it was a conscious decision to design that OS to need certain hardware your computer doesn't have: it wasn't an accident or an unavoidable side-effect. You (someone) might think all that's a tin-hatted conspiracy theory, but how else do you think they're funding the development of the OS upgrades they keep giving you 'for free' every year? It's not about giving you something for free, it's about advancing the forced-obsolescence clock by one more hour.
K
If you want a website with good articles on some questions you never knew you had, albeit about a single subject, I recommend NewLiturgicalMovement. Here’s an example that links culture, history, and the expressions of them in a specific context that I can’t really discuss here without angering the all-knowing, supreme Mods:
www.newliturgicalmovement.org
What I find interesting of articles such as the ones published in websites as the one linked above is not the content of the article itself, which is interesting in itself, but the plethora of questions and interests on related subjects that they spawn.
can you share the article?
If you want a website with good articles on some questions you never knew you had, albeit about a single subject, I recommend NewLiturgicalMovement. Here’s an example that links culture, history, and the expressions of them in a specific context that I can’t really discuss here without angering the all-knowing, supreme Mods:
A Tale of Two Collects: Different Worldviews in Old and New Prayers
Sacred liturgy and liturgical arts. Liturgical history and theology. The movements for the Usus Antiquior and Reform of the Reform.
What I find interesting of articles such as the ones published in websites as the one linked above is not the content of the article itself, which is interesting in itself, but the plethora of questions and interests on related subjects that they spawn.
It could be anything. Everything you fear can happen but what you don't want to happen.
I think this is very important. If you are not content with self, you are not living in peace and harmony with yourself. How can you ever live in peace and harmony with others if you don't even live in harmony and peace with yourself?
To me, comparison is a deception rather than unhealthy. Or perhaps we could say it is unhealthy because it is a deception. Why this is so however needs to be understood.
Comparison has everything to do with like and dislike. Many discussions on MR are about what we like and don't like. How come our minds like or dislike something? I don’t think it’s wrong to like or dislike, but what’s the mechanism behind it? Reasons to (dis)like are evident, but why does the mind (dis)like at all? What makes it to (dis)like? The examination of this function of the mind revealed for me something I believe is important.
I have come to understand life as a singular flow of transforming energy. Yet it is evident that our minds have evolved to believe differences exist and can be detected. So, in our daily lives we differentiate and compare a lot, and when that happens, another function of the mind presents itself - we begin to like or dislike the differences.
Let’s say you like a house. Are you liking the house, or what are you liking? Isn’t each house unique by itself? On close examination, each point of any house differs from all points of all other houses, which means a basis for you to compare houses is absent.
You’re not liking the house, you’re liking differences which don’t exist. Because of the differences your mind thinks it was able to detect, you’re looking comparatively at the house, which is why you’re not seeing the house for what it is.
You only like a person because you think s/he’s different from other persons. But this person is this person, and that person is that person. Every person is unique by him or herself, not different. Due to this understanding, you begin to admire the relativity of everything. You begin to flow with life, not oscillate between like and dislike.
As this understanding deepens, you’ll also recognize more and more that comparing imaginary differences makes you repeat the past - how what should happen, should be different from what is happening.
Our whole life we never (dis)liked anything or anybody, we merely (dis)liked non-existing differences which kept us reiterating the past.
For me it is like this ..
- no real differences, then no comparison.
- no comparison, then no like and dislike.
- no like or dislike, then no repetition of the past.
- no getting stuck in the past, then no bondage.
You say that being controlled by emotions is a choice. Many think the same. But is it also the truth, or is it a belief?
For the record, whatever I have said or will say in this thread, was and will be only to share same of the understanding that has happened to me, not to point out anything as right or wrong. Nor do I ask the reader to just believe me. What I am sharing is self-inquiry, which we of course, if we are interested, must do ourselves.
Now, if being controlled by emotions is a choice, then not being controlled by them must be a choice as well. If control exist -which is what you and everyone believe because your minds are conditioned by life to believe it- then we need to be in control of ourselves to not be controlled by our emotions.
But what would be the point of controlling yourself to not be controlled by your emotions if you control yourself? Your capacity to control yourself would mean that you can simply choose to be every moment how you want to be. In fact, there wouldn’t be any need for you to control yourself because you’d choose never to be how you don't want to be!
But can you? Can you be every moment only how you want to be? If so, why isn’t man happy every moment? Is he a fool? Does he want to be unhappy at times? Or can't he help being alternately happy and unhappy?
Watch yourself carefully. You are every moment already in a certain way, way before you can think of how you want to be. And whatever it is that you come to know, you only know it after it has happened.
Man's ability to have or lose control over anything is a fairytale parading as truth in his mind. Like everything else man has come to know as thoughts in his mind, control too is illusory, meaning, it does exist but it does not exist in the manner life has made the mind believe it exist.
Although life is happening only in one way, the mind is making man expect life as it should be, not live life as it is. Man’s mind however is life’s gift to man. As an opportunity for man to understand that a moment in life cannot be other than what it is, life has led man to believe in his mind that life can be as the mind wants life to be.
A self-renewing, omnipresent moment, the here and now, wherein the past, present and future are one, is all life is. The here and now is the past as the present. The here and now is also the future of the past. The future is not away from the here and now. We live physically in the future. And to understand that, life has gifted man a mind to imagine a distant future which will never come.
It is in the illusory nature of all that man has come to know about life as thoughts in his mind that his capacity to control life only exist as a thought in his mind, not as an actuality in life, and it is deep understanding of knowledge, aka wisdom, which reveals it.
I don’t subscribe to the dichotomy you present above in which the all-or-nothing attitude is supposed to invalidate the argument.
Being controlled (or not) by your emotions is a choice. Like any other choice we make, sometimes it’s easy, sometimes it’s very hard. Like any other choice we make, sometimes it’s the right choice, sometimes it’s the wrong choice. Sometimes we have all the information to make such choice, sometimes we don’t. Our degree of ability to make the best choice doesn’t invalidate the argument that it’s still a choice. At most, it impacts the quality and result of such choice. What you’re discussing is the skill in doing so, which might require more or less training.
To me, comparison is a tool but a very difficult one to use.
Peterson - love him or hate him is irrelevant - has a good point in his rule “Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone is today”. Comparing our own situation to someone else’s is useful when aimed at a very precise goal, but usually we tend to look at the broader aspects which then cause envy as we’re also blind to all the other problems that our model is facing. Thanks to comparison we can have an evaluation method to understand what we’re doing.
This was a tweet, not an article, (a tweet accompanied by an absolutely fascinating map); I shall try to unearth it for you.K
can you share the article?
If you want a website with good articles on some questions you never knew you had, albeit about a single subject, I recommend NewLiturgicalMovement. Here’s an example that links culture, history, and the expressions of them in a specific context that I can’t really discuss here without angering the all-knowing, supreme Mods:
A Tale of Two Collects: Different Worldviews in Old and New Prayers
Sacred liturgy and liturgical arts. Liturgical history and theology. The movements for the Usus Antiquior and Reform of the Reform.
What I find interesting of articles such as the ones published in websites as the one linked above is not the content of the article itself, which is interesting in itself, but the plethora of questions and interests on related subjects that they spawn.
The only negative stuff was when COVID was full tilt. Otherwise they never post anything highly political. Sometimes I will shave my friends list when a birthday pops up and I'm like who the heck is this