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I've been at this game a long time too and have never seen them lumped together, nor have any of my coworkers. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but for people to tell the OP that IT and software engineering are the same is misleading.

Especially if he goes job hunting, clicks on IT jobs and sees that they're expecting desktop/server support, network administration, etc.

Also I disagree that software engineering is a bogus title, its a very complicated process to build a piece of software and requires a ton of research, planning, testing, coding, etc, just like building a physical structure.

I'm applying for jobs fresh out of college, and I select the "IT" position, and then from there, sort by programming or administration. Most HR departments see IT as a synonym for "Computer guy", in my experience.
 
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