Getting rid of "accept" in iChat?

[legaleye3000]

When receiving an IM, is there anyway to stop it from asking me if I want to accept the IM?

 

[Wayfarer]

There aren't any options under Preferences?

 

[legaleye3000]

Nope... Weird

 

[Le Big Mac]

Nope... Weird

I don't have ichat where I am now, but isn't there a choice for accept automatically from users in your friends list? Something along those lines I thought--you can control automatic initiation, and allow none/all/selected.

 

[legaleye3000]

That's what I thought... but its not there... I looked a billion times