I have noticed that the last few years I have not made almost any new guy friends and I have expanded my pool of girl friends to a bigger size. In HS, all my real friends were guys; in College it was a mixed group of people that we all hanged out & still do sometimes, from Med school fwd, 90% of new friends have tended to be females.
I love going out with female friends to do things, but sometimes is hard for me to express feelings, for example on Memorial Day I was invited to the beach with 2 smart & good looking female friends and we just talked, drinked and hanged out the whole day at the beach. At the end of the day, they told me they loved me and such and that I was the best (this is something most of my female friends say when they talk to me) and whatever else (I think the drinks helped); but the issue comes that, when woman tend to say nice things like that to me I don't say it back the way they want it, I just say things like on Monday at the beach: "I do too" and they basically told me why I was so uptight w/ my feelings... I know woman hate that, because I lived all my life up to med school in a house w/ 3 gen of females that to this day shows me lots of love. For me, is really hard to say nice things like that, is not that I don't want to say them, they just don't come out verbally? I do things instead, but women always prefer to hear it.
Now, I'm a single guy and I'm told I'm pretty good at flirting and talking to the opposite sex, but when it comes to expressing real emotions I'm not really good at it; I don't tend to open up. For me, this is a new thing, eating lunch or going out with just females and they are just so emotional outings compared to a guys or mixed night out...
I do kiss and hug my female friends, but should I say nice things like "I love you girls" and stuff like that? Is that what female friends expect to hear? Should I express verbal emotions the same way as if they are my girlfriend? What is your opinion on how a guy should express his feelings in this day & age?
I love going out with female friends to do things, but sometimes is hard for me to express feelings, for example on Memorial Day I was invited to the beach with 2 smart & good looking female friends and we just talked, drinked and hanged out the whole day at the beach. At the end of the day, they told me they loved me and such and that I was the best (this is something most of my female friends say when they talk to me) and whatever else (I think the drinks helped); but the issue comes that, when woman tend to say nice things like that to me I don't say it back the way they want it, I just say things like on Monday at the beach: "I do too" and they basically told me why I was so uptight w/ my feelings... I know woman hate that, because I lived all my life up to med school in a house w/ 3 gen of females that to this day shows me lots of love. For me, is really hard to say nice things like that, is not that I don't want to say them, they just don't come out verbally? I do things instead, but women always prefer to hear it.
Now, I'm a single guy and I'm told I'm pretty good at flirting and talking to the opposite sex, but when it comes to expressing real emotions I'm not really good at it; I don't tend to open up. For me, this is a new thing, eating lunch or going out with just females and they are just so emotional outings compared to a guys or mixed night out...
I do kiss and hug my female friends, but should I say nice things like "I love you girls" and stuff like that? Is that what female friends expect to hear? Should I express verbal emotions the same way as if they are my girlfriend? What is your opinion on how a guy should express his feelings in this day & age?