well, to test that you could make me a user on your machine, turn on Remote Login...set your Sharing as you have described.@tedro Those steps are for OS X Server. To my knowledge the only option is to use the File Sharing pane which would work just fine.
i promise not to touch anything. it will let me everywhere except your Home dir.
i'll send you a screen snap.
p.s. osx client has the same services as server, just not the gui controls, afaik. you'd have to do the fancy stuff via CL.
p.p.s. File Sharing is only for local access.