There is probably another related thread, but I could not find it.
Have you ever gotten a request from a family member or friend for a “loan” (wink, wink) and actually got paid back? My history in this matter has been mostly negative. I have been paid back, but more times than not, it has not worked out and it’s happening again. The wild card is my spouse who is a generous soul, even when the odds are bad. This person already defaulted on a previous loan about 12 years ago, and this time, she decided she is bored in her marriage and wants out.
He is not a bad person, devoted father, when he has time, but works 6 days a week, long hours, so he has little free time. And some of their family seems to suffer from the grass is greener Syndrome when it comes to marriage. As soon as I heard this, I saw the writing and told my wife, I did not want to finance her divorce. But then my wife, the pseudo bank, gets a call, and I am the only thing protesting handing over about $4000 to help “consolidate her debt”, actually pay her debt for her.

Again, it’s supposed to be a loan. Yes, I can afford it, but it just puts a bad taste in my mouth. And yes, I have been called stingy, but I have given substantial sums of money as gifts in the past for special reasons. Anyway, it’s depressing, and I’m not planning on being paid back. The bright side, is that if this arrangment is honored all is well, and if it is not, it will be the last “loan”.
Have you ever gotten a request from a family member or friend for a “loan” (wink, wink) and actually got paid back? My history in this matter has been mostly negative. I have been paid back, but more times than not, it has not worked out and it’s happening again. The wild card is my spouse who is a generous soul, even when the odds are bad. This person already defaulted on a previous loan about 12 years ago, and this time, she decided she is bored in her marriage and wants out.
He is not a bad person, devoted father, when he has time, but works 6 days a week, long hours, so he has little free time. And some of their family seems to suffer from the grass is greener Syndrome when it comes to marriage. As soon as I heard this, I saw the writing and told my wife, I did not want to finance her divorce. But then my wife, the pseudo bank, gets a call, and I am the only thing protesting handing over about $4000 to help “consolidate her debt”, actually pay her debt for her.
Again, it’s supposed to be a loan. Yes, I can afford it, but it just puts a bad taste in my mouth. And yes, I have been called stingy, but I have given substantial sums of money as gifts in the past for special reasons. Anyway, it’s depressing, and I’m not planning on being paid back. The bright side, is that if this arrangment is honored all is well, and if it is not, it will be the last “loan”.