Well, not exactly. Before I start this off, I just want to tell you guys that I know this isn't the best place to say this, but I just need to tell someone.
Here goes. Five months ago I found out that my (now obviously ex)girlfriend cheated on me with not one, not two, but three guys over the course of our four-month relationship multiple times. This girl was the first girl I actually trusted completely, and then I discovered that she was a lier and a cheater. This crushed me.
A month later, I (thought) I was over it. I met a new girl, and we've been dating for three and a half months now. It's been amazing and I love her so much. However...
I don't know if it's just who I am, or if my ex really screwed me up, but... I get jealous of every little thing my girlfriend does. Literally *everything*. If she even talks to another guy, I get jealous. I can't help it. I overthink everything and assume that her talking to other guys will cause her to start liking them more and she'll break up with me. And even though I know that she would never do it in a million years, I subconsciously imagine her cheating on me. I can't stop myself from doing it.
I fear that if I complain to her too much about this she'll get tired and break up with me. Did I mention I'm a little bitch? I keep trying to convince myself that she loves me and she would never do that, but I can't help it. I can't. I can't even look at her Facebook page because when I see her having conversations with other guys I get jealous. It's that bad.
It's not that I want her near me 24/7, I'm okay with not being around her. But, for example, this past weekend she was hanging out with friends (one guy and one girl) for a few hours and I can't help but think that she and the guy... talked. And she starts to like him. And I can't help but feel jealous because they were all together and I should have been there. It literally pains me to think of her hanging out with other guys and having a great old time.
Maybe it's because I think I'm a loser and have no self-confidence... maybe I think I'm not good enough for her. Or maybe it's because of what my ex did to me... she was the first girl I've really trusted with all my heart and I find out that during the entirety of our relationship she's running behind my back.
Maybe it's because I overthink things and worry about everything. I tend to do that a lot. I don't know. All I know is this is killing me and I don't want to lose an amazing girl because of my jealousy. Every day is painful for me to see her hanging out or having fun with another guy... even walking with one. And it shouldn't be this way. Please, please, please, someone tell me what I should do. I don't normally post this kind of stuff here, if ever, but I think I've built up enough of a reputation to be able to post this kind of thing. Please, help.
Here goes. Five months ago I found out that my (now obviously ex)girlfriend cheated on me with not one, not two, but three guys over the course of our four-month relationship multiple times. This girl was the first girl I actually trusted completely, and then I discovered that she was a lier and a cheater. This crushed me.
A month later, I (thought) I was over it. I met a new girl, and we've been dating for three and a half months now. It's been amazing and I love her so much. However...
I don't know if it's just who I am, or if my ex really screwed me up, but... I get jealous of every little thing my girlfriend does. Literally *everything*. If she even talks to another guy, I get jealous. I can't help it. I overthink everything and assume that her talking to other guys will cause her to start liking them more and she'll break up with me. And even though I know that she would never do it in a million years, I subconsciously imagine her cheating on me. I can't stop myself from doing it.
I fear that if I complain to her too much about this she'll get tired and break up with me. Did I mention I'm a little bitch? I keep trying to convince myself that she loves me and she would never do that, but I can't help it. I can't. I can't even look at her Facebook page because when I see her having conversations with other guys I get jealous. It's that bad.
It's not that I want her near me 24/7, I'm okay with not being around her. But, for example, this past weekend she was hanging out with friends (one guy and one girl) for a few hours and I can't help but think that she and the guy... talked. And she starts to like him. And I can't help but feel jealous because they were all together and I should have been there. It literally pains me to think of her hanging out with other guys and having a great old time.
Maybe it's because I think I'm a loser and have no self-confidence... maybe I think I'm not good enough for her. Or maybe it's because of what my ex did to me... she was the first girl I've really trusted with all my heart and I find out that during the entirety of our relationship she's running behind my back.
Maybe it's because I overthink things and worry about everything. I tend to do that a lot. I don't know. All I know is this is killing me and I don't want to lose an amazing girl because of my jealousy. Every day is painful for me to see her hanging out or having fun with another guy... even walking with one. And it shouldn't be this way. Please, please, please, someone tell me what I should do. I don't normally post this kind of stuff here, if ever, but I think I've built up enough of a reputation to be able to post this kind of thing. Please, help.