I anticipate a lot of differences of opinion come because different stores had different things they did; I would agree that the lack of a SOP between all the stores was not a good thing.
The employees did absolutely no monitoring of the line.
At my store, they were out and spending time with the line, passing out water bottles and that sort of thing.
Before closing they had the stock in the back but refused to divulge how much or what models.
It's quite possible they didn't know. It does take some time to count stock.
Again no communication from the employees
Like I said, in my line, after they had a count of how many there were, there was an employee who was walking down the line; her iPhone/iPod Touch had a custom app for tracking things, and so when she got to me, I said what I wanted, and she said "we're out, but we still have X" (I said "Okay, thank you for letting me know" and left).
There were no offers to sign up for a waiting list as consolation.
I don't think Apple's ever done a waiting list, honestly. They're pretty much always first-come-first-serve, for whatever reason.
That's the central flaw in your whole argument. You think that your experience is universal. It isn't. Most people had a positive experience. You didn't and you want to claim that the launch was a failure based on that anecdotal evidence.
And it also should be noted that people who stood in lines are a very particular demographic (in general, Apple fanboys who have spare time), and represent a small percentage of people who will actually buy the device. Most normal people are willing to wait a few weeks (which is really why the Wii was so disastrous: because they were still out of stock when that point hit); when I came back Saturday to ask about shipments, I noticed a lot of families and such coming in and being told "Sorry, we're out", and saying "Oh, okay. I'll come back another time".
So, "negative experience" on the launch really has little impact, I think, on most people actually buying it once it's in stock.
Assuming, of course, Apple can get rid of the supply shortages soon.