Hey there,
Check this tutorial I made, and if you still can't email me and I'll help you with the drivers you'll need.
The tutorial video is no longer available...I will post some new instructions soon however. If you have ilife 09 or later (not that a later one is out yet), then please just try connecting your everio, open iMoive09, turn on the everio to the Play position if it has one on the switch, then wait. Mine is generally detected now, and imports my movies on it's own.
Brian