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How do You Tell Someone Nicely Not To Drink?

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Beyond Broken

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I am working on getting my ex-girlfriend back. So far so good. But since we've been apart, she has taking on the new habit of Drinking Vodka. She drinks almost every night. And she drinks to get drunk.
I want to come up with creative ways of distracting her from this without upsetting her... All I can come up with is "Let's not Drink tonight, I like you better sober". Not even sure if that sounds good now that I typed it...
Any advice?
Thanks
 
She may be at the tipping point of going from night drunks to complete always wasted lush ...

If you cannot yank her back, might be a tough future.
 
If she's drinking just to get drunk every night then there's probably some problem that has developed since you were last together.
As with anyone like that they need to want to sort this problem for themselves first, admit they have a problem and all that.
 
Ditto the above.

If you have to "distract" her and she gets upset about it, that right there tells you you're facing a serious problem.

I can easily see an intervention in her future.
 
Try to keep her busy until she's really tired, and see if she says she has an urge to drink. If she does have this craving, then perhaps you need to either tell her that it makes you uncomfortable, or don't try to get back together with her.
 
If your past threads are any indication, maybe she is drinking because she's got a slightly obsessive and possibly controlling ex on her tail. Sounds to me like you are pursuing a relationship which is Beyond Broken.
 
Zombie Acorn said:
You don't, its their decision not yours.
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Well it's their decision but thankfully we live in a society that likes to say when it gets too much. So other peoples problems don't spiral out of control.

iBlue said:
If your past threads are any indication, maybe she is drinking because she's got a slightly obsessive and possibly controlling ex on her tail. Sounds to me like you are pursuing a relationship which is Beyond Broken.
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I didn't know it was that OP, cheers for pointing it out :)
 
iBlue said:
If your past threads are any indication, maybe she is drinking because she's got a slightly obsessive and possibly controlling ex on her tail. Sounds to me like you are pursuing a relationship which is Beyond Broken.
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+1

I think BB needs to realize that sometimes you gain back what you let go.
if it's meant to be, it's meant to be.

In the meantime, let her go.

it hurts, but it sounds like that's what you need to do.
 
No matter how you do it, expect her to get angry or annoyed but realize that she will probably be nicer the next day when she sleeps on it

I have told a friend this and he didn't take it well until 2 days later when he thanked us
 
Beyond Broken said:
I am working on getting my ex-girlfriend back. So far so good. But since we've been apart, she has taking on the new habit of Drinking Vodka. She drinks almost every night. And she drinks to get drunk.
I want to come up with creative ways of distracting her from this without upsetting her... All I can come up with is "Let's not Drink tonight, I like you better sober". Not even sure if that sounds good now that I typed it...
Any advice?
Thanks
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Wean her off with some Rohypnol Light.
 
Telling or asking someone not to drink seldom has much of a long term impact on their drinking behavior. It can even screw up your relationship when they start choosing the bottle over you, which may not be a bad thing depending upon how bad your relationship already is. And trying to distract them by going out to settings where alcohol isn't available (e.g., the movies) will get a bit tiring on you after awhile, as you are constantly trying to orchestrate and control things and feel like it is your responsibility to keep her away from alcohol. I say just show a lot of love and support and let her take whatever course she is intent on taking. Ultimately, involvement in a proven-effective group like AA to get her sobriety may be an option she may wish to take.
 
If she gets too drunk, get her Vodka bottle, fill it with water, and see if she notices.

Old trick, but funny when they actually believe it's Vodka. lol.
 
Beyond Broken said:
I am working on getting my ex-girlfriend back. So far so good. But since we've been apart, she has taking on the new habit of Drinking Vodka. She drinks almost every night. And she drinks to get drunk.
I want to come up with creative ways of distracting her from this without upsetting her... All I can come up with is "Let's not Drink tonight, I like you better sober". Not even sure if that sounds good now that I typed it...
Any advice?
Thanks
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From past threads I have to say it is you that is driving her (it would sure drive me to drink:eek:), just leave her alone and she may come back. I'm surprised she hasn't got a court order out on you:rolleyes:

If that sounded harsh I am sorry:eek:
 
Beyond Broken said:
I am working on getting my ex-girlfriend back. So far so good. But since we've been apart, she has taking on the new habit of Drinking Vodka. She drinks almost every night. And she drinks to get drunk.
I want to come up with creative ways of distracting her from this without upsetting her... All I can come up with is "Let's not Drink tonight, I like you better sober". Not even sure if that sounds good now that I typed it...
Any advice?
Thanks
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Tell her that if she wants to drink then you don't want to see her anymore. If she stops then *perhaps* she likes you...but I get the feeling you're the problem in all of this and perhaps you should wise up and leave her alone :(

Out of interest...how old is she, and how old are you?
 
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