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How To Deal With Neighbors From Hell

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matty1551

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My neighbors are the most inconsiderate bunch I've come across. We share a fence with the son on one side, and his father on another side.

They are extremely vulgar at all times and the sons glorify the "thug life". At one point one of his sons was pursuing a rap career.

On to my current issues at hand:

-Loud Vulgar Music
The bass can usually be heard inside our house. If my nieces and nephews are over, it wouldn't be ok for them to play outside because of what they would hear. My parents also do not like to be outside if they are in their backyard.

-Loud Vulgar People
They are constantly swearing and screaming. They make it a habit to watch football games outside which compounds the issue. I've Been in the fathers house, they have a huge entertainment room yet they always have parties outside.

-Litter in yard
We find cigarette butts regularly in the corner of the yard where we share a fence with their backyard. At this point, I'm simply throwing them back over the fence. I'd love a more permanent solution though.

-Fireworks/Explosives
They have been setting off loud fireworks on a regular basis since the 4th. When I say loud, I mean they set neighbors car alarms off and people come out to look because it sounds more like an explosion.

I hate to simply call the police but I'm afraid talking with them will only escalate things.

My mom has tried many times to ask them to quiet down. They've apparently become less receptive to her requests lately.

I'm amazed others haven't complained. I mean, maybe they have but I think a lot of people are afraid to speak up because of their "thug" persona.

I definitely know that other neighbors have noted the obnoxious fireworks but I think most of the other issues are more directly related to my family because we share a fence with them.

What can I do here? My one idea was to speak to all the neighbors that may be affected by these people and have us collectively sign a card or letter asking that they be more respectful of others in the neighborhood.

Any ideas would be awesome.
 
Sorry, but don't be such a softie and have a civil face-to-face conversation. Sheesh where did good old fashioned "being able to speak to someone" go? You're thinking about writing a letter?! That'll only further divide the situation. Go over, knock on their door, and explain your situation. They're people, they'll listen.

For what it's worth, I like vulgar.

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I think you are in the wrong neighbourhood your royal highness... Perhaps, the Buckingham palace might be a better place. One ought not to put oneself in the ordeal extraordinaire and mix with vulgar people. One only has to live with one's own class of people.

Seriously though, you sound so bloody uptight that I feel like vomiting...
 
Typswif2fingers said:
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I think you are in the wrong neighbourhood your royal highness... Perhaps, the Buckingham palace might be a better place. One ought not to put oneself in the ordeal extraordinaire and mix with vulgar people. One only has to live with one's own class of people.

Seriously though, you sound so bloody uptight that I feel like vomiting...
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I don't think it sounds uptight at all. I would be annoyed as well. Especially if I were subjected to annoyingly bad rap music.
 
palmerc2 said:
Sorry, but don't be such a softie and have a civil face-to-face conversation. Sheesh where did good old fashioned "being able to speak to someone" go? You're thinking about writing a letter?! That'll only further divide the situation. Go over, knock on their door, and explain your situation. They're people, they'll listen.
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A conversation has been had multiple times but nothing ever changes.

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Typswif2fingers said:
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I think you are in the wrong neighbourhood your royal highness... Perhaps, the Buckingham palace might be a better place. One ought not to put oneself in the ordeal extraordinaire and mix with vulgar people. One only has to live with one's own class of people.

Seriously though, you sound so bloody uptight that I feel like vomiting...
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You sir make me want to vomit. Clearly you have no concern for anyone but yourself. I hope you're subjected to something that's disruptive to you. Then maybe you'll change your tune.

Sure this isn't a high class neighborhood but it also isn't the ghetto. The type of area shouldn't have anything to do with it anyway. It's the only house in the neighborhood that is constantly disruptive.
 
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Typswif2fingers said:
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I think you are in the wrong neighbourhood your royal highness... Perhaps, the Buckingham palace might be a better place. One ought not to put oneself in the ordeal extraordinaire and mix with vulgar people. One only has to live with one's own class of people.

Seriously though, you sound so bloody uptight that I feel like vomiting...
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I wouldn't call it "uptight". Honestly, I'd have the same complaints. I grew up in a suburban but not super high-class area (somewhere between downtown and Bel Air) but I certainly wouldn't be entirely happy if similar things were going on near me.

I wouldn't appreciate a neighbor tossing cigarettes (intentional) in my yard.
Constant loud and vulgar music, not something I'd deal with especially if I had children. I can understand maybe for a party on the weekend or something but all the time, not going to happen.
Same would go for the fireworks - once in a while, sure, but every weekend? Want to do that? Find an open field or parking lot, someplace that doesn't the lives or homes of others at risk.
 
Call the cops regarding noise complaints and file an issue with the city about the litter and fireworks.

Or start planning a move if it's feasible.
 
I think choices are limited to putting up a taller fence or moving.

Sorry but there's not much else you can do about it.
 
Get yourself a 12 gauge shotgun and kill those MF's.....Just kidding even though I'd feel like that if I had neighbors like that. Thankfully mine are decent people. If they weren't I'd sell my house
 
They litter and the HOA doesn't get on their case about it? I'm pretty sure that's a Deed violation. My HOA gets their panty in a twist if my grass grows past ankle height.:rolleyes:

Get the authorities involved, cops if necessary, but definitely let the HOA know.

Moving is an option, not a great option. But it's an option. You can even place this sign in front.
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Or you can use this version.
 
Mousse said:
They litter and the HOA doesn't get on their case about it? I'm pretty sure that's a Deed violation. My HOA gets their panty in a twist if my grass grows past ankle height.:rolleyes:

Get the authorities involved, cops if necessary, but definitely let the HOA know.

Moving is an option, not a great option. But it's an option. You can even place this sign in front.
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Or you can use this version.
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Thankfully HOA scum isn't prevalent everywhere, I can't stand those bastards. Because quite frankly, if I had a loud and obnoxios neighbor who's unwilling to keep it down after a civil conversation, I'd just be louder :D
 
I vote for passive aggressive. Very loud middle eastern music is a great alternative to rap. I advise starting it early in the morning especially after they've been up late the night before partying.

To go with the music, you might try throwing something on the grill. Not necessarily something you're going to eat - just...a sacrifice. Something that will truly stink up the neighborhood.

You won't need to do it a second time. :)
 
Sorry to hear about your issues. If you've tried talking to them and being reasonable without resolve, your next step is to talk to the landlord. If you are owners, then I'd consider moving.
However, don't be suprised that your wonderful neighbours don't reduce your chances of selling.
One of my neighbours is loverly. We exchange gifts at Christmas, and the kids birthdays. We help each other out.
The other side used to be okay, then she split with her partner and the new boyfriend moved in. The sort that parks in front of your drive, gets chucked out by his girlfriend and comes back trying to knock the door down at 3 in the morning. They are now expecting their 2nd child (her 4th by 3 different dads!)
The house isn't that big so we are all hoping they move. They leave rubbish all down the side of the house, and in the garden. Rats have moved in. The other side to them, put a new fence line in to try and separate their garden more. Trouble is if anybody came to visit our property if we tried to sell, the site of next door would put them off.
Not that we would be able to move anyway given my family circumstances.

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AlliFlowers said:
I vote for passive aggressive. Very loud middle eastern music is a great alternative to rap. I advise starting it early in the morning especially after they've been up late the night before partying.

To go with the music, you might try throwing something on the grill. Not necessarily something you're going to eat - just...a sacrifice. Something that will truly stink up the neighborhood.

You won't need to do it a second time. :)
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No because they will shoot you.
 
The OP should go to the city/county building and check the zoning ordinance and all laws relating to that specific neighborhood. Sometimes you can access this material online.

Read them thoroughly and find out what is lawful and what is not. If the noise, littering, fireworks, etc. violate any section of the ordinance or local laws, then document dates, times, places and get photos and videos so that you can provide actual evidence of the violations.

Then visit your zoning enforcement officer, present the evidence, and request the city/county (as the case may be) take action.

You have a legal right to the peaceful, uninterrupted enjoyment of your own property. If your local enforcement officer fails to take action, you do have a case for a nuisance lawsuit. But litigation is expensive and even if you won, you'd still be stuck living next to what appear to be very unpleasant people.

Of course, you do have the option of countering the vulgar music with a loud boom box playing religious music, aimed in the appropriate direction. :)
 
Asking for quiet in your home is definitely not too much to ask for.

The first thing that I'd do is contact the HOA if you have one, and complain to them. After that, if it continues, go to the police and report the neighbors.

Just curious, but how far apart are the houses? If they are like RIGHT next to each other, than a small amount of noise should be accepted, but if they are far apart (like 300 feet or something), and you can still hear them, its a major problem.

I honestly cannot understand how these (thug-life) people can be so inconsiderate all the time. Why DO people find the need to play their music so earth-shakingly loud?

I sometimes wish to be able to hit the lottery and buy up a large tract of land in the mountains of Montana or somewhere (with broadband, of course ;)), far away from all other people, because of the idiots in the world today.
 
You are not going to change your neighbors.

If you play the complain game, they'll make your life even more hell.
Heck, you might even end up with some broken bones.

MOVE.

-t
 
Typswif2fingers said:
:)

I think you are in the wrong neighbourhood your royal highness... Perhaps, the Buckingham palace might be a better place. One ought not to put oneself in the ordeal extraordinaire and mix with vulgar people. One only has to live with one's own class of people.

Seriously though, you sound so bloody uptight that I feel like vomiting...
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Im assuming this is a sarcasm post, based on the smiley up front.

If it's not, then what the hell? Someone is "bloody uptight" because they don't enjoy having people playing really loud music, swearing, throwing trash in their yard, and setting off huge fireworks all the time right next door.


palmerc2 said:
Thankfully HOA scum isn't prevalent everywhere, I can't stand those bastards.
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Yes, because all HOAs are overbearing, terrible organizations hellbent on making everyone miserable. I'm mostly very happy with the services mine provides.

Because quite frankly, if I had a loud and obnoxios neighbor who's unwilling to keep it down after a civil conversation, I'd just be louder :D
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And who wouldn't want to live next to two neighbors trying to outdo each other in noise and other atrocities? Talk about scum and bastards...
 
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