I mean the following as amicably as possible, and as always, I could be wrong... but I suspect you don't fancy him in the ways that I am describing. You developed some chemistry with this guy by making it work, and that's fantastic (I've been there too) but it's a bit different from what I'm referring to. Perhaps one day you'll meet someone you'll have a natural chemistry with and you'll think back to this and know what I mean. Perhaps you won't, maybe this is enough for you (and that's great too) but personally I needed more and thankfully found it. That said, there's so many different types of love, suppose there's no right or wrong way.
I think you have no idea what you are talking about. I feel I have completely natural chemistry with him. I never had to MAKE it work. It always did, the only difference is is that it started out as having chemistry on a purely friendship level, which I still believe is the best way due to my experience. I don't know where you got the idea I had to "make" it work. My point was that friendship barriers can be past, and occasionally you will find that someone you may have discounted for years, ends up being exactly what you need.
Perhaps time does indeed change people and they ofcourse grow together or apart (as so many married too young things show) in this case it grew into something great.
By you infering that this is somehow less then ideal I am insulted and personally think, once again you dont' know what you are talking about in reference to this situation. Perhaps what you had back in the day was less then ideal and you found someone better suited, but that's probably just because you actually didn't have chemistry with this person perhaps.
I find that the fact we grew together over the years far more satisfying. Like I said I tried it both ways. Perhaps if we would have met for the first time in college, we would have still ended up together if we had just started out in a dating relationship, because we do relate with eachother so well. Just because some people grow together and start out friends first for a long time doesn't discount the relationship and I still think personally, makes it that much better, because the physical stuff will eventually go away, whether you marry your best friend or your spouse becomes your best friend, in the end you will be just as happy.
Growing up in my family (takes even more babble then this would be to describe my next statement) I have always been surrounded by and have had a very good definition of real love, maybe more so then a lot of people have (not referencing you specifically or ANYONE in this forum I swear, just some friends of mine etc). So please do not discount my relationship because you have had different experiences with people.
