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So your 18/19 he's around 16? Hmm, I don't know, you're going away to college. Once you're in college there are soooo many new people, this guy will be a thing of the past, there will be a lot of parties & opportunities. In no time you'll be matured and found a new guy!
I know I'm in love with my Neurosurgeon but, she's too old unfortunately! If I was older the age difference wouldn't be such a deal, but now the age difference is a little too much
I know I'm in love with my Neurosurgeon but, she's too old unfortunately! If I was older the age difference wouldn't be such a deal, but now the age difference is a little too much
bradc said:So your 18/19 he's around 16? Hmm, I don't know, you're going away to college. Once you're in college there are soooo many new people, this guy will be a thing of the past, there will be a lot of parties & opportunities. In no time you'll be matured and found a new guy!
I know I'm in love with my Neurosurgeon but, she's too old unfortunately! If I was older the age difference wouldn't be such a deal, but now the age difference is a little too much
Just curious, what's an acceptable age difference among couples? Five years? Eight years?
Your freakin because your leaving in a month. Thats huge for you, alot of that energy in one way or another is resting on this guy whose become a body/mind magnet for you. The level headed part of your brain wants to see what it can get away with before you jump in the big pool, and it is sliping escape plans to your heart and hormones when your not looking. YOu could get him and you know it, but your not that kind of girl, and you probably have enough self esteem to know what your capable of.
Of course im infront of a laptop far far away.
Of course im infront of a laptop far far away.
Cloud9 said:
Sounds like it could be right. My subconscious is worried about leaving and is trying to make ties at home; though I will admit I don't feel nervous at all about leaving. I'm really excited, actually. But this guy thing has been driving me up the wall insane; I honestly can't get him off my mind and all I want to do is talk with him.
CubaTBird said:
I think the older you get, the less difference it makes. For instance, I'm 19 and my bf is 25 - which people say is only socially acceptable by a small margin. My aunt was 29 and when she married her 38 year old husband - nobody really seemed to mind about their 9 year age gap.
Mariahlullaby, weigh up the situation sensibly and the solution will be clear...but whether that solution is what you want it to be is another story!
Have a massive night out on the tiles, just totally go for it - whatever happens will happen.
Then, if you don't find yourself a man at Uni you can come home in the holidays and have a massive shag-fest with your new friend-with-benefits.
Just do it, carpe diem, and who cares if you end up breaking this guys heart - he'll get over it.
Then, if you don't find yourself a man at Uni you can come home in the holidays and have a massive shag-fest with your new friend-with-benefits.
Just do it, carpe diem, and who cares if you end up breaking this guys heart - he'll get over it.
Sutekidane said:
It's not a big deal because you're a girl, and the guy is older, making it OK.
I'm 26 now, and I can't wait to date a 20 year old girl three years from now.
*runs and hides*
sobolobo said:
(shouting from behind the couch)
See above.
Dunno, CubaTBird, but I know my wife is 4 years older than I am. Seems pretty socially acceptable to me.
Look at Demi/Ashton as well. I'm sure there are plenty of examples of older women/younger men out there. I see no reason why it should be viewed differently.
I think in the past older men went with younger women since the men had the "power" - the higher paying jobs, etc. - and the women were attracted to the stability. I'm not trying to be sexist here, but I think that's the way it was. Women, in fact, often didn't work outside the home.
Now, however, things are more equivalent and women often are in the position of power - high-paying jobs, well-established - and younger men find them attractive, and the women are unwilling to "settle" for an older man. So they end up with younger guys.
19 and 27? Why not?
Look at Demi/Ashton as well. I'm sure there are plenty of examples of older women/younger men out there. I see no reason why it should be viewed differently.
I think in the past older men went with younger women since the men had the "power" - the higher paying jobs, etc. - and the women were attracted to the stability. I'm not trying to be sexist here, but I think that's the way it was. Women, in fact, often didn't work outside the home.
Now, however, things are more equivalent and women often are in the position of power - high-paying jobs, well-established - and younger men find them attractive, and the women are unwilling to "settle" for an older man. So they end up with younger guys.
19 and 27? Why not?
CubaTBird said:Nobody asnwered my question..
So it would be socially unacceptable for a 19 year old guy to date a woman who is say eight years older than him? Im just trying to come to a conclusion here..
I am 20 and dating someone that is 27
CubaTBird said:Nobody asnwered my question..
So it would be socially unacceptable for a 19 year old guy to date a woman who is say eight years older than him? Im just trying to come to a conclusion here..
No, but it WOULD be unacceptable for a 19 year old guy to date someone 8 years YOUNGER than him. I think after 18 you can have any age difference you went in an upwards direction- under 18 I would say 3 years difference is okay. Of course there are exceptions- I have a 17 year old friend who is super-mature (school/job/own appartment/supports self with no help from parents etc) who has a 21 year old boyfriend, which may be illegal, but makes sense in their situation...
The older you get the bigger a gap is acceptable.
General rule of thumb as far as I'm concerned is:CubaTBird said:Nobody asnwered my question..
So it would be socially unacceptable for a 19 year old guy to date a woman who is say eight years older than him? Im just trying to come to a conclusion here..
Take your age, halve it and add 7. Anything below that is too young (and quite possibly illegal
)So to answer your question - no.