Wow.....I can't even imagine what you must be going through. I don't even know you but if you lived closer to me I'd invite you over for a beer.
that really is a downer. im sorry to hear that. my condelences to everyone
how long did you know him for?
Many years ago, I phoned the bass player of my former band, just to say "Hi", for no reason. He was stoned, and couldn't stop repeating "Wow! How did you know to call me just now?" and raving on. I just went "Whatever", made chitchat and signed off after a while. The next week he OD'd on heroin and was found dead in a local park.
Lee, I know you know this; I'm restating the obvious mainly for others...
Neither you or I or anyone close to the person could have stopped this. You or I are in no way responsible for his decision and action on it. Nor could you or I have changed the arc of their history "if only" we had known or "done something different".
Suicide is a solitary act. The individual is absorbed in their own pain or desperation. Some say it is an act of selfishness, or a deliberate, final hitting out at those around them, but really we don't know. Ultimately, though, it is the final decision of the individual, and not an act (or inaction) of those close to them.
Many years ago, I phoned the bass player of my former band, just to say "Hi", for no reason. He was stoned, and couldn't stop repeating "Wow! How did you know to call me just now?" and raving on. I just went "Whatever", made chitchat and signed off after a while. The next week he OD'd on heroin and was found dead in a local park.
Lee, I know you know this; I'm restating the obvious mainly for others...
Neither you or I or anyone close to the person could have stopped this. You or I are in no way responsible for his decision and action on it. Nor could you or I have changed the arc of their history "if only" we had known or "done something different".
Suicide is a solitary act. The individual is absorbed in their own pain or desperation. Some say it is an act of selfishness, or a deliberate, final hitting out at those around them, but really we don't know. Ultimately, though, it is the final decision of the individual, and not an act (or inaction) of those close to them.
Is it bad for me to ask what happened? If so then sorry for the offense. Luckily I haven't lost anyone close yet, I have no idea what I'de do?
I lost a lifelong friend the in the same manner right before Thanksgiving 2005. I had anger as well as sorrow to deal with, but now that time has passed I only remember how good his heart was. Most people were hurt, but I kind of understood - having been in the same frame of mind before due to drug addiction... anyways I'll always cherish the time we had.
It's good to remember. Don't ever blame yourself Lee.
I'm really sorry to hear this, no one should ever be put in this kind of situation. My prayers go out to you and your friends family. Take care and God bless!