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"I love you"s
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If passing the salt isn't a sign of love, you don't know what love is.
I personally have only said it twice in my life.
Lots of Japanese people are like that. They may say it when they're getting married or something, but they won't just say it when they're brushing their teeth or something. Anyway, when my girlfriend says it in English, she has told me that she doesn't take it seriously, because it's meaningless.
She said it in Japanese once, and it was obviously not "just" a casual "I love you." It was more meaningful to her, and to me.
If passing the salt isn't a sign of love, you don't know what love is.
That depends whether or not she wants to rub it in your wounds as well.
Now - a - days people throw it around like it's nothing...
but when you feel the " I love you " like word vomit, thats when you need to say it. It's how you feel and no one can take the way you feel away..
In my relationship, i said i love you two months into the relationship..
we met in february and started officially dating in April, and by May we started saying it...
but when you feel the " I love you " like word vomit, thats when you need to say it. It's how you feel and no one can take the way you feel away..
In my relationship, i said i love you two months into the relationship..
we met in february and started officially dating in April, and by May we started saying it...
+1.
To go further for me personally, while I love my wife, I didn't know of a deeper meaning of love until we had and lost our child.
BL.
P.S. coincidentally, my playlist on my iPhone just kicked over into Howard Jones' "What is Love".
Tell me about it. Last week when I told my wife, "I love you" she told me, "You're not getting my Bud Lite."
The means of those words varies depending upon where in the relationship your are. During the puppy love stages those words care a lot of weight. But once you've been married a few years, they become as casually as a "good morning." IMO, it's important to remind love ones every once in a while. In case they forget, of course.
Tell me about it. Last week when I told my wife, "I love you" she told me, "You're not getting my Bud Lite."
Good woman there.
The means of those words varies depending upon where in the relationship your are. During the puppy love stages those words care a lot of weight. But once you've been married a few years, they become as casually as a "good morning." IMO, it's important to remind love ones every once in a while. In case they forget, of course.
Hell if I get a "good morning" that means more than a "I love you".
I remember where me and my girlfriend had our first conversation, where we first kissed, where we first held hands but I can't remember this at all. All I remember was having a talk with her on the phone, running downstairs about to go out... She said "love you!" and because my family were around (and I was about 17 at the time ) I said "you too!... bye!".
To which my mum heard and said "awww you said you loved her".
Blush. Run out.
We say it all the time now. But there's always the super cosy little snuggle moments when it's said and its really bloody powerful then.
Just wait for it to come naturally. I wouldn't play games with it either, like seeing how long it takes. She might harbour some ill thoughts in that time and start to question the relationship.
) I said "you too!... bye!".To which my mum heard and said "awww you said you loved her".
Blush. Run out.
We say it all the time now. But there's always the super cosy little snuggle moments when it's said and its really bloody powerful then.
Just wait for it to come naturally. I wouldn't play games with it either, like seeing how long it takes. She might harbour some ill thoughts in that time and start to question the relationship.
In my first serious relationship, I/we didn't say it until maybe a year of going out. But I have the thinking that love isn't something you should throw around. Whatever love means to anyone, it should mean forever/life not something that can just go away. Kind of like the way you love your family, through thick and thin But I also believe that there are different levels of love, like family love is different from a relationship love is different, in obvious ways. Anyways, that relationship ended. But in a way, I do still love him, not in a relationship kind of way, but as a friend now.
Now my current relationship, I think he told me he loved me a little after a month of going out. I didn't say it until maybe 2-3 months. But I kind of held myself back from saying anything because I wasn't sure if I meant it, or if I was just 'going with the flow' but we've moved in together and in love.
Now my current relationship, I think he told me he loved me a little after a month of going out. I didn't say it until maybe 2-3 months. But I kind of held myself back from saying anything because I wasn't sure if I meant it, or if I was just 'going with the flow' but we've moved in together and in love.
I remember where me and my girlfriend had our first conversation, where we first kissed, where we first held hands but I can't remember this at all. All I remember was having a talk with her on the phone, running downstairs about to go out... She said "love you!" and because my family were around (and I was about 17 at the time
To which my mum heard and said "awww you said you loved her".
Blush. Run out.
We say it all the time now. But there's always the super cosy little snuggle moments when it's said and its really bloody powerful then.
Just wait for it to come naturally. I wouldn't play games with it either, like seeing how long it takes. She might harbour some ill thoughts in that time and start to question the relationship.
I'm gonna have to ask for your man card.
the word is meaningless to me.
people say it way to much. My girlfriend said it first. About 2 months into your relationship. I didn't say it back to her. I couldn't. Not right then. I had never said it before. Not even to my parents. Because i want it to mean something. And i told her that.
I finally said it about a week after she did. And i did mean it, but it didn't have the effect on me as it did her i was going for.
Now we say it all the time to each other. And it doesn't mean crap to me.
people say it way to much. My girlfriend said it first. About 2 months into your relationship. I didn't say it back to her. I couldn't. Not right then. I had never said it before. Not even to my parents. Because i want it to mean something. And i told her that.
I finally said it about a week after she did. And i did mean it, but it didn't have the effect on me as it did her i was going for.
Now we say it all the time to each other. And it doesn't mean crap to me.
I'm so sorry you guys
I hope you are all well, because i've seen some of my passed-on friend's parents. While i may be incredibly sad, its the parents that are the most deeply affected.
Yeah, losing a child would be even sad.
I don't know from experience, as I don't have a wife or child, but I think that losing a child may be harder than losing a wife.
I don't know from experience, as I don't have a wife or child, but I think that losing a child may be harder than losing a wife.
I know you meant well with this comment and to a point I understand what you're saying but I don't entirely agree. What, because some people are not the parenting type, they'll never know the meaning of love? I don't believe that you must have children to complete your life and celebrate your love. No singular thing (especially something as monumentally huge as having and raising a child) is for everybody and shouldn't indicate any less meaning to the love in that relationship.
It may be a sweet sentiment but I think it's an overgeneralized and perhaps overused one too. (not to get too serious on you here)
Well, I understand what you're both saying. A life without children is in no way incomplete (and some parents never love their children) but I have to agree with bbotte. This is only my personal opinion/experience and what I would say were I to project my experience out as a general truth, so no flaming please.
We meet at various stages in our lives people who become major kingpins in our emotional jigsaw. The very strong, passionate feelings we have about them we define by the word 'love'. That sounds cold but basically that's what it is. People we love dearly can walk out on us and we're torn apart; but sooner or later we get over it, find someone else, forget about the first person and reach happiness again.
But having a child is off the scale. He/she is something we created, and the unconditional love we feel for that child is so far above what we can ever feel for the random person we just happened to meet at some stage in our life. Maybe one way this illustrates itself is how the 'honeymoon period' between couples always ends at some stage while there is no such thing for the relationship between parent and child.
Now we are getting serious.
You have misunderstood my statement sweetheart, I am Married for almost 8 years now and I love my wife and she loves me, SO she says.
We traveled first got our stuff squared away. We had our first child in early 2007. Like I said I love my wife a lot, but the love of my child is far deeper than my wife and my wife feels the same. We have discussed this. I can't really explain this, it's hard. But what I am saying is just that you will never love a spouse as much as you will love your children. You still have "love" I am not knocking that. Your life can have plenty of meaning without children, you do not have to have children to "complete" your life. I would go to the ends of the earth for my daughter, I would do the same for my wife except I might pause for thought first.
Another way is you can divorce your spouse if you get tired of their crap, there is no divorce for children, you love them when they are bad just as much when they are good. You can stop loving your spouse, it happens all the time, people get divorced because of that. You do not stop loving your children.My daughter:
I interpret iBlue's post differently. I don't think she's talking about childless people, instead that not every parent has such intense feelings towards their offspring that it eclipses the love for their partner.
I'm quite prepared to stand corrected if I'm misinterpreting.
I really meant it in both ways. Childless people as well as those who don't take to parenting so easily. It's a tough job and it's not for everybody. I'm pleased to hear any which way for discussion though.
If you're not married, the trick is to say it the minimum number of times you can get away with.
I have neither a wife or child, but I can imagine that the love you have for your own child is far different, and perhaps stronger, than the love you have for your wife. It's definitely different, as you "met" your wife, but your child is a physical part of you.
Your 'spouse' is, probably, just someone you met in a bar.
Your child, as stated above, is your flesh and blood.
There is no greater bond. You and your partner will just have to deal with it.
As for "I love you", it depends on the person making the statement. Some, it can drip off their tongues like so much spit. For others, it's not so easy. For them, it's a serious statement, not to be taken lightly.
Your child, as stated above, is your flesh and blood.
There is no greater bond. You and your partner will just have to deal with it.
As for "I love you", it depends on the person making the statement. Some, it can drip off their tongues like so much spit. For others, it's not so easy. For them, it's a serious statement, not to be taken lightly.