In all honesty, I believe the extra video ram is only of significant need if your planning on running an additional monitor. Although with that being said, I run a 23" Monitor at 1080p, playing the occasional game : Cod, Age of Empires. And it runs it fine at medium settings for cod and high settings for AOE. Im not all that convinced that the extra RAM is of utter importance.
hello can i ask you something, a little off-topic?
Are you playing those games / any games on boot camp or mac OSX? Because when I tried to play games on my boot camp (macbook pro c2d 2,4ghz, 2gb ram, nvidia 9600gt), at first it worked kinda well, with very few shutdowns. But at some point it would always overheat when I tried to play a game so I only had like 30-60 minutes of gaming, then boom, macbook shut down. I guessed it was because of the overheat. The thing is that lower-end macbooks don't overheat in boot camp thanks to the shared GPU which keeps cool, thus making the high-end models less of gaming machines compared to the 13".