nothing there. im going to try again tomorrow and check it out hmm. it might only happen from that particular friend computer though, which used to be my old computer....Can you check if there are any log file in either of the following places for ichat
HD/Library/Logs or Home/Library/Logs
These if there are any may give a idea what the cause is.
do you have any third party add-ons installed at times these can cause apps to do strange things.
I will help to get this worked out
iChat : Preferences : General
Settings: Show iChat in Menu Bar
At user login, set my status to Available
When I quit iChat, set my status to offline
Those are the relevant settings.