So, since dudes can ask for relationship advice here, I figure I can, too! (Hey, and I'm a girl having problems... ladies aren't the root of all evil, apparently!) So there's this young man I've seen a few times. When I'm with him, I feel like I'm a little reluctant entering in to anything, if there's anything to enter into. BACKGROUND: My first serious boyfriend was a manipulative, lying sack of crap. We dated for ~9 months, he was cheating on someone (whether it be me or his ex) for ~9 months. He didn't respect me, yada yada yada, I'm scared to be aggressive in relationships lest I get hurt emotionally again. I'm usually a pretty aggressive person. How do I be more outgoing 'n' junk? It's a skill I really need to learn, lest I screw things up with this fine young man, or any people I may meet (even platonically) in the future.