Internet Dating Tips?

Discussion in 'Community Discussion' started by bobber205, Aug 24, 2010.

  1. bobber205 macrumors 68020


    Nov 15, 2005
    So I've officially moved on from my last potential relationship and I'm ready to replace my first real love with another. :D

    I've started the ball rolling on "seek lovers through friends of friends" today and I would also like to explore Internet.

    I've read up on it and asked other places for advice, but I would like to know what MR has to say.

    Should I avoid it all together? Embrace it? Be super cautious? Etc. :)
  2. TSE macrumors 68030

    Jun 25, 2007
    St. Paul, Minnesota
    Personally not my cup of tea but it's ultimately your choice.

    What I would say is if you are going to do it, be super cautious and don't get super involved right away...
  3. renewed macrumors 68040


    Mar 24, 2009
    Bemalte Blumen duften nicht.
    Use some better known sites such as eHarmony, OKCupid, or PoF.
  4. lbro macrumors 6502a


    Jan 22, 2009
    I know one person who tried internet dating. He is now happily married to someone he met on the net. I'm not sure what site he used though.
  5. 184550 Guest

    May 8, 2008
    My favorite thing about OKCupid was the questions.

    OP: I would just say be super cautious. I'd hate to read that a MR member wired ten of thousands of dollars to a 'girlfriend' in Nigeria. :D
  6. Abstract macrumors Penryn


    Dec 27, 2002
    Location Location Location
    Here are my tips:

    1. If she's over 30, her profile photos are from at least 2 years ago. If she's over 40, her profile photos are from at least 5 years ago.

    2. Add 5 lbs to her stated weight, even if she's thin.

    3. If you don't use a legitimate dating service website, the chances of hooking up with a 17 year old male WoW player who thinks this is hilarious is significantly higher than it has to be. Stick with the sites you've heard of.

    Actually, I don't know much about internet dating. The only married couples I know of who met online all met on MacRumors. ;)
  7. kellen macrumors 68020


    Aug 11, 2006
    Seattle, WA
    Subtract? I would have thought add? and more than 5. No internet dating experience though.
  8. ohaithar macrumors 6502a


    Jul 29, 2010
    Elk Grove Village, IL, USA
    Personally, I think internet dating is flat out creepy. I like the old fashion way, find a girl you like from your school, church or work. If I where you, I would be extra cautions, it could be a man =O
  9. Melrose Suspended


    Dec 12, 2007
    Remember that women usually only reveal a third of men they've slept with, and they have been known to take the "Internet Diet" and tell you they weigh 10 or 15 pounds less than they really do.

    Buy her an internet vodka cranberry, and don't ask for nudies until at least your third internet date.
  10. Hraggleblarg macrumors member

    Jul 14, 2010
    OkCupid is a pretty neat site. I recommend you visiting Loving from a Distance. just so you know what you're getting into. Other than that, have fun, and don't lie.
  11. bobber205 thread starter macrumors 68020


    Nov 15, 2005
    No longer in school, don't go to church, and work has two females. Both married. :p

    I am going to try okCupid. :D
  12. ohaithar macrumors 6502a


    Jul 29, 2010
    Elk Grove Village, IL, USA
    Well, I wish you luck then....
  13. Gregg2 macrumors 603

    May 22, 2008
    Milwaukee, WI
    Remember, that "18 year-old" prospective date might just be a cop.
  14. chrmjenkins macrumors 603


    Oct 29, 2007
    That's why you should only look for dates on sites that specialize in self-loathing anorexic girls.
  15. Ttownbeast, Aug 25, 2010
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  16. Teh Don Ditty macrumors G4

    Teh Don Ditty

    Jan 15, 2007
    here's a good dating site...
  17. rdowns macrumors Penryn


    Jul 11, 2003
    Yes, I know of 5 or 6 MR couples (2 of them married). :eek:

    I wonder if jessica. is single. I'm going to send her a PM.
  18. r1ch4rd macrumors 6502a


    Aug 5, 2005
    Manchester UK
    Seems people are really down on the internet dating. I've met a few people online and been out for dates/drinks. I've had nothing but good experiences. As long as you are sensible you will be fine. Personally, I don't see why more people don't give it a go, why limit yourself? It's not like you can't meet someone at school/work/whatever as well. (On a side note - work is a bad idea, trust me).

    OkCupid is pretty good. I met a (now-ex) girlfriend through there and it worked well for a while and we were together for nearly a year. I'd say the one problem with OkCupid is because it's free to use, a lot of people sign up, do the quizzes and then get bored and leave. It's also more open to abuse.

    There was also an issue with there being about a gazillion guys to every girl, so it's difficult to get your serious message noticed above all of the idiots spamming for sex (again, a symptom of it being free). Plenty of Fish is the worst for this in my experience!

    Currently I am using match. The price tag deters the more casual user just hoping to get a one night stand. Over the last few months I've been on a few dates but nothing has come of it yet (going on another this weekend though). However, mid-way though my membership I became involved with someone else, so I didn't use it for a while. Perhaps the worst part of that break up is that I don't qualify for the six months free :)

    I think my top tip is - persistence. Don't go around spamming people, but don't expect a reply from many people either. Hardly anyone replies to me, and I ignore a lot of people, but don't let it get you down - it's no real loss.

    I'd be interested to hear how you get on. Good luck!
  19. JsR macrumors regular

    Feb 28, 2010
    I've never personally tried it but since I was 17 I've been in a relationship - I'm 22 now.

    I do know a few people who have tried it and have always given positive reviews. I've always wanted to try speed-dating in a bar haha, god knows why! Maybe next time I'm single - it did look good on Hitch though :D

    Go for someone different. People always focus too much on the looks - don't get your average Joe who is half naked with no aspirations and zero personality. Remember girls can have brains and beauty ;)

    Good luck!
  20. -aggie- macrumors P6


    Jun 19, 2009
    Where bunnies are welcome.
    Match is best. eHarmony is the worst.

    The last sentence says it all. You're much too cynical and besides you have no experience.:)

    Note: This is written from a male perspective. We are what we are and we generally care about looks, so deal.

    Normally women don't even state a weight. You have to go by pictures. If all you care about is what's on the inside, then pics don't matter. But most people who state that only the inside matters are lying to themselves (attraction matters), or they're so unattractive they don't want you to focus on it. So use the pics as a guide, but assume they might not be actually representative. Most people put their best pics up. It's up to you to determine how truthful you think they are. You obtain some measure of truth, by talking to the person, finding out what they like to do, etc. Just assume they probably won't be as pretty as you thought, but the other facets of what makes them who they are should make up for that. If the person you eventually meet is nowhere near what they portrayed, end the first date and be on your way. It happens. If you really feel uncertain about someone before meeting, ask to web cam. Web cams don't lie.

    Be accurate in your own profile. If you lie, then the opposite happens from what I described above.

    Don't post pics of your car, house, boat, etc., unless you want to attract women that care about the material things. However don't put yourself in a bad light either. I had a friend that posted his red BMW on his profile, because he wanted a much younger woman. I didn't think it would work out, but they've been married for years now and have at least one kid. Generally women just want to know you aren't living with mom and can support yourself.

    Anyway, I think online dating is a great way to meet women. You get to skip the bar scene and it makes for a way to meet people who have the same interests, especially the fact that they want to date. Think of it as a way to shop for what you want. It works.
  21. Jaffa Cake macrumors Core

    Jaffa Cake

    Aug 1, 2004
    The City of Culture, Englandshire
  22. Ttownbeast, Aug 25, 2010
    Last edited: Apr 16, 2012
  23. SlovakApple macrumors 6502

    Jul 4, 2010
    In the heart of Europe
    I was on a few dates which spawned from such sites, but nothing serious. Have to agree with all here who say that extra caution is useful.
  24. MovieCutter macrumors 68040


    May 3, 2005
    Washington, DC
    I've wondered that as well...ha ha. :cool:

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