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Can I use that to control the volume of my music while using "home sharing"

home sharing is irrelevant to your question, so I'm not quite sure what you are asking.

The remote app allows your phone/touch to act as a remote (including volume) for iTunes installs, ATVs, and Airport Expresses.

Home sharing is just a library aggregation function.
 
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