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Is it so hard?

It's not the people who don't say thank you who bother me, because I assume they're grateful anyway. It's the people who only follow your first piece of advice, ignoring the rest. It's sometimes difficult going back and asking if they'd tried the other bits too. 😱
 
I try to say thank you a lot. In fact, I did today on my Hard Drive problem thread.
Don't jump to conclusions unless you have a jump-to-conclusions mat.

It seems to be fine now. SMART status says it is verified.

Thanks for your help everyone.
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See, I'm courteous. 😛 😀 😉 🙂 😎
 
I hate it when you give advice, and then that person argues with you about it and go with the opposite. Why ask, stupid? 😉


I always say thanks in my original post, and thanks after someone helps me. But I'm Canadian, and do find that it's true what they say about Canadians (generally, not all the time)........
 
No, that Canadian men have large penises and are great in bed. 😉

Actually, I was talking about being well mannered. After sex, I always turn to her and say "thank you" before turning over and falling asleep. Any less than that would be rude.
 
I may just have to cry.

Over the years, I've asked for help about 20 million times... and sometimes I haven't said thanks. This is mainly because like leftbanke said, I didn't want to inflate my post count or try to make it seem like I wasn't an insightful or interesting poster. Also, I don't like to post more than once in a thread I've made. It makes me seem like I'm just trying to keep the thread alive, which I personally find really annoying. Usually, I'll just edit the original post or PM people to thank them. Sometimes I forget, though... so to all who have helped my in the past:
All of your suggestions worked perfectly and I never had a problem. Thanks so much!
 
I'm shocked that so many people are apparently not thanking others because they're worried about being seen as post-count whores. As a couple others in this thread have pointed out, it's important to let others know that a fix has worked. Furthermore, it's just the right thing to do.

That said, I think I've probably been guilty on occasion of not posting thanks -- not because I was worried people would think I was unnecessarily bumping the post, but just because I lost track of the thread. So, if you gave someone help and are wondering if it solved the problem, why not PM the person you helped?

Then, ideally, the people receiving such PMs would post back to the original help thread to give an update about whether the problem was solved.
 
Back in college I used to work for the largest Mac lab on campus. I found that to be a relatively thankless job, which I imagine most IT is. You are expected to fix any/every problem immediately. We would spend long evenings doing upgrades to machines/programs only to have users complain the next day about how things had changed rather than recognizing the speed/feature improvements. There were times that I took the complaints personally and got a bit angry about the lack of thanks/endless demands.

Looking back I miss that job more than any other I had. Of course it may have had more to do with the only 10 hour work week, which left plenty of time for extracurricular activities (we were all full time students, those of us who got paid had to work 10 hours, the volunteers only had to do 3).

I've since grown a thicker skin and realized that the fact that you have not heard back from the person who asked the question implies that the fix worked and they are grateful for it even if they do not specifically go out of their way to say it.

I guess the biggest thing here though is it would be nice to know which fixes are the ones that work since many threads have multiple suggestions, and clarifying which one was the actual fix could save others some time when the search function is used to find solutions to the same/similar problems.
 
Here is a current thread that is an example of what every help seeking thread should be like:
1) The OP gives all the details s/he possibly can, including what (if anything) s/he tried already.
2) A (good) suggestion is made.
3) The OP tries that, actually stating what s/he did, and that it unfortunately didn't work.
4) A new suggestion is made (quite coincidently by yours truly 😉).
5) The OP tries it and reports back that it seems to have worked (and throws in a thank you 🙂).

Now, is that so hard...?
 
The few times I haven't replied with a thanks I was afraid of wasting bandwidth and being deemed as a "post-count whore" as well. (As you can see, I have given up on that way of thinking, and now make many a useless post, mainly full of gibberish and what-not.)
For example, I wanted to reply to the original question "Is it so hard" with "only when I play with it". But that's the wise-ass in me
But now I try to thank in advance. If someone took their valuable time to help me with what is usually an obvious and easy fix, they certainly deserve a thank you.
 
Mitthrawnuruodo said:
Here is a current thread that is an example of what every help seeking thread should be like:
1) The OP gives all the details s/he possibly can, including what (if anything) s/he tried already.
2) A (good) suggestion is made.
3) The OP tries that, actually stating what s/he did, and that it unfortunately didn't work.
4) A new suggestion is made (quite coincidently by yours truly 😉).
5) The OP tries it and reports back that it seems to have worked (and throws in a thank you 🙂).

Now, is that so hard...?
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Yeah nice example.
 
I know where BV's coming from and agree although I'm usually so little help to most people around here I'm little effected by the problem!
I do try to remember to thank those that help me though.

What gets me is the rudeness of some members, I also try to apologise if I make an incorrect statement and I've had that thrown back at me in the past, not only didn't the person ( a Demi-God no less) I apologised to just accept it but had to go to the point of PMing me back with a **** you!
 
mpw said:
...I apologised to just accept it but had to go to the point of PMing me back with a **** you!
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No...

A made guy doesn't hit another made guy/guyess.










(Apologies: I've been watching non-stop Sopranos all weekend) 😀
 
I try to make it a habit of saying thank-you before a response because i know personally i hate getting thank-you's from people because to me they have become meaningless. People just say them because they were told to not because they mean it. Just because it is morally correct, not because they care.

But meh i guess.
 
eva01 said:
Just because it is morally correct, not because they care.
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Aww, don't be so cynical. 😉 Doesn't the fact that some people still care about the moral lessons they were taught show that they care on some level?

These days, it feels like common courtesy is non-existent, so I'm more than appeased w/ a simple 'thanks' (well, not here on MR because I never give viable advice anyway 😛).

And Blue Velvet, haha, perhaps a more suitable Sopranos quote for the issue of this thread would be, :shrug: Whatcha gonna do?

(or is it... "What're you gonna do?" okay, I suck at quotes 🙁 )
 
Course, the other problem you have to bare in mind when you get no thanks for your efforts is...

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...and there's nothing we can do about it!

I think this is why you see different people take over the helm of being the big helpers here too. Those that once tried to help where ever they could finally become fed up of it and give up, lucky for us we have a good enough and big enough community that there is always someone to take their place....until they get fed up 😱 😛

Oh well, ho-hum, plod along.
 
edesignuk said:
I think this is why you see different people take over the helm of being the big helpers here too. Those that once tried to help where ever they could finally become fed up of it and give up, lucky for us we have a good enough and big enough community that there is always someone to take their place....until they get fed up 😱 😛

Oh well, ho-hum, plod along.
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Couldn't you just put in an automatic response, a la Mad Jew, "Have you repaired permissions?"
 
Nickygoat said:
Couldn't you just put in an automatic response, a la Mad Jew, "Have you repaired permissions?"
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I'm not sure this is the thread to mock those who actually try to help people... if you're trying to be funny then there's a variety of smilies you can use to indicate this...
 
devilot said:
Aww, don't be so cynical. 😉 Doesn't the fact that some people still care about the moral lessons they were taught show that they care on some level?

These days, it feels like common courtesy is non-existent, so I'm more than appeased w/ a simple 'thanks' (well, not here on MR because I never give viable advice anyway 😛).
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I completely agree. Even if it is just the morally right thing to do, those that choose to abide that decision are still showing that they care at some level. They recognize they've been given something so they make the morally right decision to let the giver know their thanks--because they are thankful at some level. Better too much politeness than too little.

The hubby finds it funny that I send thank yous to family members who give us gifts, but, to me, it seems like the morally right thing to do. At the same time, I really am thankful for whatever it is they did/sent, and they should know it because I told them so and not have to assume it because I take for granted that they think I'm thankful. Frankly, the amount of respect and gratitude shown to others these days seems a bit lacking. To give thanks, and to teach others to recognize and give thanks where thanks is due, is just a small way of keeping us from plummeting to the level of mere animals with no social graces or civility.
 
floriflee said:
The hubby finds it funny that I send thank yous to family members who give us gifts, but, to me, it seems like the morally right thing to do. At the same time, I really am thankful for whatever it is they did/sent, and they should know it because I told them so and not have to assume it because I take for granted that they think I'm thankful. Frankly, the amount of respect and gratitude shown to others these days seems a bit lacking. To give thanks, and to teach others to recognize and give thanks where thanks is due, is just a small way of keeping us from plummeting to the level of mere animals with no social graces or civility.
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Dear god do i hate receiving thank-you notes, notice it is some generic stupid card and throw it in the trash within about 8 seconds.

People probably think that is horrible for me to do but i just hate them.
 
Mitthrawnuruodo said:
I'm not sure this is the thread to mock those who actually try to help people... if you're trying to be funny then there's a variety of smilies you can use to indicate this...
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Where exactly am I trying to mock those who help other people?
Thanks for the tip on the smilies though 😛 😉 😀
 
eva01 said:
Dear god do i hate receiving thank-you notes, notice it is some generic stupid card and throw it in the trash within about 8 seconds.
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Generic cards with a scrawled name under a printed 'Thanks' and I'd agree.

Handwritten message inside telling me that they liked the gift and they're putting to use for x purpose make me feel good, particularly if I went to a lot of effort to select it 😉
 
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