Is love a one way street?

[vniow]

For me? Yeah, seems so. Not just with potential love interests but even friends too. I just feel like I'm often putting more effort into maintaining a relationship than the other person but I wonder how much of it is real and how much is imagined. I'm getting quite tired of getting myself into this kind of situation and am looking to resolve it. The people I keep close to me now are the ones who have made just as much effort into maintaining the relationship as I have. Life's too short to waste your time with people whom don't seem to care about you as you do them.

And I'm guilty of using MR as an escape instead of dealing with issues head on.

Yep.

 

[Baron58]

Is love a one way street?

Love is a little thing shaped like a lizard.
It runs up and down and it tickles your gizzard.

Do you sometimes feel like you do more for your significant other than what you get in return?

No. Not 'sometimes'. All the time. I've given up everything I care about in life, and get only frigidness in return.

 

[someguy]

I'm sorry I miss the part where this thread was referring to extremly happy people.

My apologies for correlating love with happiness. They obviously have nothing to do with one another.

 

[spicyapple]

My apologies for correlating love with happiness. They obviously have nothing to do with one another.

Great read. Happiness is correlated closer with compassion than love, but I'm no expert in this area.

 

[someguy]

Great read. Happiness is correlated closer with compassion than love, but I'm no expert in this area.

Is compassion not just the middleman between love and happiness?

 

[MacNut]

Love is a battlefield....no one can tell us we're wrong.

 

[mactastic]

For me? Yeah, seems so. Not just with potential love interests but even friends too. I just feel like I'm often putting more effort into maintaining a relationship than the other person but I wonder how much of it is real and how much is imagined. I'm getting quite tired of getting myself into this kind of situation and am looking to resolve it. The people I keep close to me now are the ones who have made just as much effort into maintaining the relationship as I have. Life's too short to waste your time with people whom don't seem to care about you as you do them.

I've lost touch with a lot of friends this way too. People who are great friends when it's convenient but who lose touch when one moves, or there's a breakup / hookup, or a different job.

I've gotten to the point where I won't put eternal effort into staying in contact with people who won't put in any effort themselves.

 

[BigPrince]

Love can sometimes be magic.


But magic can sometimes... just be an illusion.

**Javan



Love, love, you know what love is? Love is an illusion created by lawyer types to perpetuate another illusion called marriage to create the reality of divorce and then the illusionary need for divorce lawyers.

**St. Elmo's Fire (1985)

 

[floriflee]

I know that seems like common sense, but I guess I'm guilty of both of those sentiments. I think you're so right, it's easy to only look for signs that we would recognize and so easy to overlook the others.

I've been guilty of it, too, as the hubby would attest. I've nagged him plenty of times about things, only to have things come back and bite me in the butt when I do it (or sometime shortly thereafter).

Unfortunately talking about it here with other people isn't going to make it any better.

And I'm guilty of using MR as an escape instead of dealing with issues head on.

I think that came out a little harsher than I intended....

 

[patrick0brien]

Life is a one-way street. Love is not.

-mactastic

Ok, you get the "Profound Statement of The Day Award (c)". Mind if I steal it?

Though I'm not worthy, let me try to contribute with one of my own:

Love is not something to be taken, or given, lightly.

 

[mactastic]

-mactastic

Ok, you get the "Profound Statement of The Day Award (c)". Mind if I steal it?

Use it as you see fit. Although to be fair, it was inspired by the tune I was listeing to as I read the thread: Bluesiana Triangle's "Life is a One Way Ticket".