Is there a way to figure out what Web sites have been viewed on my mac?

[Nosebleed]

Honestly, I'm pretty outraged at this whole thread. It's one thing to casually snoop if you happen to have the know-how to do it and give in to temptation, but to actively seek out ways to spy on your significant other is pretty reprehensible.

Frankly I'm outraged at your 'holier-than-thou' response.
The OP has asked a legitimate Q about how to accomplish something on her machine, and you pipe up with nothing to add to the actual topic, complete with a sleight on her moral character.

I looked in here expecting to see a royal flamefest, with all the 'tips' saying look through the browser history, but this thread took a sudden right-turn and never really recovered.

So far it looks as though, short creating your own 'script' then Spectorsoft seems to be the way to go.

Good luck to you ranchy01

 

[Father Jack]

Honestly, I'm pretty outraged at this whole thread. It's one thing to casually snoop if you happen to have the know-how to do it and give in to temptation, but to actively seek out ways to spy on your significant other is pretty reprehensible.

Not really ...... if he's a hornball

FJ

 

[calculus]

My view is that the best option is simply to ask him about it.

As soon as you start 'tracking' him the relationship is probably over - you either find out something unpleasant about him or he finds out that you don't trust him.

Anyway, I hope you find a way to work out your problems as it sounds from what you have said about the marriage that you may have some other issues between you.

 

[Nym]

Hmm, tricky situation... my advice is, just talk to him.

Not in a agressive way (because like some people are suggesting he may not be the culprit at all), let him now that you get strange pop-ups (for example) and at least give him a chance to clarify.

However, I don't think it's healthy to be suspicious of someone you're about to get married, it's a very serious decision and if it's not built around trust and respect it's bound to fail sometime soon.

I for one have a bunch of friends who sometimes visit "ackward" web-sites when they're at my place. Whenever my GF goes into Safari, starts typing something and the auto-complete suggests "**** **** ******" she knows they've been around because we've talked about it honestly. She know that if I download adult material she can find it on the desktop!

And there's nothing wrong with "normal" adult content, that's a matter of taste and personality, and IMO it isn't connected with any lack of sexual satisfaction, some people just do it for fun. Illegal material is a whole different game... just make sure you try to approach the subject first instead of going all "spectorsoft ninja" on him my 2 cents.

And BTW, that SpectorSoft crap really scared the sh*t out of me! I'm at work now goddamnit! Maybe someone's watching me!! As if the "iSight" wasn't paranoid enough! Damn you SpectorSoft!

 

[3nm]

I appreciate everyone's advice. The wedding has been postponed, BTW, for different issues I hope we can resolve over time. I just found the cookies a shock... it seems out of character for him. To satisfy curiousity, the sites are teen porn, barely pubescent girls mostly. There's about a dozen different cookies. Perhaps the cookies were dropped by visiting some gaming site, as someone suggested above... but there IS a definite (and disturbing) theme... anyone willing to test if gamespot.com (another site I found in cookies) drops these kinds of cookies? I was hoping to find a date stamp on the cookies thinking maybe the sites were visited while we had a party or something.

i'm sorry about what happened. but at the same time, i'm really glad that you've made a decisive decision that wasn't easy to make. i feel for you because my friend was crying and asking me for advice the other night. not only her fiance cheated, but he also caught scabies and passed the STD to everyone in his family. yet, my friend was blind enough to get back with him after a couple days.

as another member has pointed out, we might be able to change ourselves, but we can't expect us to change others. i truly admire people that can stand up and think for themselves in situations like these. hopefully the issues between the two of you will be resolved. whatever happens, i wish you the best.

Honestly, I'm pretty outraged at this whole thread. It's one thing to casually snoop if you happen to have the know-how to do it and give in to temptation, but to actively seek out ways to spy on your significant other is pretty reprehensible.

it's actually quite common that married people hire PIs to check on their SOs. but in any case, i think i'd be more outraged to find out my SO has done some fishy stuff on my computer behind my back. a personal computer is very personal nowadays.

well, duh, he is a male..

ummmmm... not every male browses kiddie pr0n.

 

[jsw]

ranchy01, there is a possibility that he is a pedophile. If so, that's a horrible thing for him to be, and he needs help (or more) before he does anything.

There is a vastly greater possibility that these sites do not, in fact, show underage children but instead show 18+ year olds who look young (not that that's much better), and that he visited the sites out of curiosity (clicking on a pop-up, seeing a link in email, results of a Google search, etc), was embarrassed, and tried to cover his tracks.

What people look at on the internet and what they're actually aroused by are not always the same thing - the first is a much larger set of things than the second with most people. Curiosity has driven me to click on the odd link, think "Oh my God!" and get out. It's one thing to spend lots of ongoing time perusing apparently-underage girls (and/or boys); it's another thing altogether to have clicked on a few links.

I think you need to find out which it is.

 

[topgunn]

You can do a "get info" on the cookie to see when it was created (Right click and then click on "get info"). Perhaps that will help.

 

[CaptainHaddock]

ranchy01, there is a possibility that he is a pedophile.

That's a harsh term to throw around lightly. Thinking that a 16-year-old girl is attractive does not make one a pedophile; it makes you a normal guy. Heck, there are cultures where girls get married off at the age of 13.

 

[annk]

Your finance obviously doesnt want you to see the sites he is going to but that does not give you the right to sneak around the whole ordeal. Especially copying cookies into a secret folder. What is more vindictive?...

It's her computer. She has every right to know if it's been used for something questionable. Worst case scenario - - if someone's been viewing illegal content on it, she could get into trouble.

Honestly, I'm pretty outraged at this whole thread. It's one thing to casually snoop if you happen to have the know-how to do it and give in to temptation, but to actively seek out ways to spy on your significant other is pretty reprehensible.

Again - her computer. I'd say it's reprehensible to use someone else's computer for something that obviously might make the owner uncomfortable.

ranchy01, there is a possibility that he is a pedophile. If so, that's a horrible thing for him to be, and he needs help (or more) before he does anything.

There is a vastly greater possibility that these sites do not, in fact, show underage children but instead show 18+ year olds who look young (not that that's much better), and that he visited the sites out of curiosity (clicking on a pop-up, seeing a link in email, results of a Google search, etc), was embarrassed, and tried to cover his tracks.

What people look at on the internet and what they're actually aroused by are not always the same thing - the first is a much larger set of things than the second with most people. Curiosity has driven me to click on the odd link, think "Oh my God!" and get out. It's one thing to spend lots of ongoing time perusing apparently-underage girls (and/or boys); it's another thing altogether to have clicked on a few links.

I think you need to find out which it is.

Wise words.