Issue with Top Menu and Window Size

I am used to when I click on the green button in a window it maximizes, and when I click it again I get a window maybe half the size of my monitor.

In many apps (e.g. TextEdit), when I do this the Top Menu disappears and the application/document windows literally fits my entire screen - I don't like this.

And when I click on the green dot again, I am not getting a window that is maybe half-sized - I don't like this either.

Why? Because the first scenario requires that I hover around to find my Top Menu. Bad.

And the second scenario means that I can't easily get a window that I can see around - I often want a half-sized TextEdit window so I can type notes while seeing the main application/document in the background (e.g. taking notes from MacRumors).

Also, I often find that when I open an application/document, the window is 95% maximized, but not entirely, and I have to move the window to the top-left and then drag the window to make it maximized.

(I will be taking off next week for a VACATION from all this fricking work!!!!)


I am using El Capitan.

 

Is there a way to make this the default behavior?