So I got my second mac mini going, installed server and created a user. Machine is running fine headless. I copied all my iTunes media from one machine to an extrenal HD. I attached the external HD to the mac mini server, logged in with screen sharing and I went to start iTunes holding down the "Option" key and nothing happened. I changed the directory using preferences and pointed iTunes to the new library and nothing. Tried screen sharing my MacBook and the "option" open itunes worked fine. I'm not sure if having no old media screwed things up. To test things I copied a video file to the new "Add to iTunes" directory in the new location and it works. Is there a way to force a rebuild? Have no idea why iTunes wouldn't read the "option" key I was holding down.