I can build a PC and install an operating with the best of them (I used to be an IT), I pity anyone still stuck on XP, even Microsoft doesn't support it anymore..
Who told you that, exactly? If you paid for that information, get your money back. MS is supporting XP until 2014. They're extending it because XP is so popular, contrary to your misinformed judgement of that. But anyhow, what OS you choose to use is a personal preference. ie. I personally prefer XP over W7 or W8. Perhaps XP was too complicated for you, so I could understand you hating it. Like I've always said, Apple exists for people who aren't smart enough to learn how to use real computers. Judging from the level of intelligence in all of the responses in this thread, yours in particular, it realiy exemplfies what people say of Apple fans. And its odd you're so hateful of XP since it appears that OSX hasn't changed much since Windows 2000 came out. I used to work on Macs before you were a gleam in your father's eye, and they all came with the Chicago font. And one could credibly argue that their system has not even changed all that much, since Jobs stole it from Xerox Parc.
After switching to OSX in 2010 I definitely don't miss Windoze and the horrors of virus's, the registry or driver hell.
Tell me about it. Like I said in my first post, if someone who actually knows computers is having THIS much trouble just getting iTunes to see a lousy iPhone 4 (even though Windows itself can recognize it), then don't talk about Windows horrors. This Apple one tops EVERY problem I have ever had in my 30+ years with Windows computers. When its clear that no one on one of the largest Apple forums on the internet can even begin to have a clue as to what's wrong, you lose the right to argue that Apple products are so easy for the average layperson to use.
Regardless you have some choices, reinstall XP, upgrade to Windows 7, use another computer, buy a Zune, or better yet try OSX before knocking it.
I'm surprised you left out "smash your iPhone and get an android" as a solution. You also said that "9,999,999 users" can get their iPhone to work with XP. So why should I have to go and change my friend's entire operating system just because I want to get one $#%! file off of this cursed iPhone?! When you were in IT and you had clients that had problems, did you give them solutions like "buy another computer, buy a Zune, switch to OSX, smash your computer"? If so, I imagine you must have been fired from every IT job you've ever had. You wouldn't last 5 minutes in any company I know of, if that's the extent of your knowledge and the quality of your troubleshooting responses.
As for as "switch OSX" is concerned, although it is one of the stupidest responses I have ever read on 20 years of reading internet forums, that actually is going to happen. I am currently looking to replace the XP laptop with an iMac, and I imagine that will solve the issue. But I'm not doing this for any reason that has to do with my iPhone. I'm only doing it because my friend asked to replace her laptop with an Imac, as she wants to see what the Mac experience is like (like everyone else here, she knows very little about computers in general). So why am I wracking my brains trying to solve this problem you ask? Simply because I like computer challenges. It exercises the brain. You wouldn't understand. It's ok. You're a Mac guy.

I know that.
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A mac expert to give you advice on windows xp? You need to reconsider that computer savvy title that you tried giving yourself.
This from the guy who calls himself a "demi-God" no less of Apple-centric knowledge. But we see that when presented with a simple common iPhone connection problem, you absolutely no idea how to even go about solving it. You obviously don't understand what "computer savvy" means. It does not mean I'm a Mac expert. For me, it means I'm familiar with windows (and I can see that means a lot more than you are), but obviously I'm not as immersed in the Apple world as those here. If there is no one here well versed in both domains, as you imply, then obviously I can't expect solutions from here anyway. That's okay. I never presumed as you are doing, that if I don't get help on this particular forum, then I'm doomed for life. I'm long past expecting any, and now I'm just playing with you. Like a cat would with a mouse, see?
Now, in light of the fact that its become painfully evident that absoutely no one here has the slightest clue as to what the problem is with iTunes not recognizing my iPhone, I think you need to reconsider your own alleged expertise. The way you obsesses about me saying I have computer experience, you're obviously threatened by mine. That's your problem, my friend. I'm sorry that you're not swift enough to understand what I meant by that. So all you've done is posted to this thread to insult me, hijack it and cause trouble. Why are you in my thread if you are unable and unwilling to help? Don't have anything better to do, eh? You certainly don't seem to mind "wasting your valuable time" as you call it, you're stalking me and dredging up three year old posts. That's pretty sad, dude.
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