Also, it's possible your entire library might be hiding in your iTunes folder. Your music's default location is stored in Users>Music>iTunes>iTunes Media>Music. If it's all there, simply drag and drop it into your iTunes library (although you will lose your playlist information).
Thanks to both of you for your ideas and help
With that info I did a bunch of searching in my backups and found the iTunes XML. File. I drug it to iTunes and that got things going. A few tweaks and I am back !!!!