'thanks to apple'? They didn't force you to buy an iPad, and I'm sure you must have known that iOS doesn't support flash as it's been all over the news since day 1...
There is no good way to get flash on your iPad. Having said that, Skyfire works with some flash content, and Frash (look for it in Cydia) will also work sometimes.
In some cases websites also have apps in the AppStore that let you get to their content without needing flash.