I ordered a refurb iPad 2 a few months ago, shortly after the iPad3 was announced. They ship from China so the time is partly about where it is shipping to. That said, I think I ordered mine on a Thursday and if I remember correctly it arrived the next Tuesday which was well ahead of the stated time - so about 5 days for me and I live in New Jersey.
Keep checking the status from the apple website, first when it actually ships, which is usually within 24 hours of order (they don't sell refurbs unless they are in stock and ready to go), then clearing customs, and then Fedex...
My refurb looked brand spanking new. I got a base iPad2 WiFi only for only $319 plus tax. They include a new battery and outer shell which is why they look new. I suspect that all my future iPads will be refurbs.
Hope that helps. Also, iPads never include earbuds, only iPhones include them.