Liking someone

Discussion in 'Community Discussion' started by TSE, Jul 31, 2012.

  1. TSE macrumors 68030

    Joined:
    Jun 25, 2007
    Location:
    St. Paul, Minnesota
    #1
    I have a problem that has haunted me somewhat since I hit puberty.

    Whenever I like a girl, I will almost obsess over her, not in a creepy way, but I will not be able to get her off my mind and stuff and I will be really nice to her and the usual.

    Well as soon as I get her to like me back and show affection towards me, I immediately don't like said girl anymore.

    This has happened about 5 or 6 times. I am going to be a sophomore in college this year, is this just immaturity or just a really long phase? Does anyone else have this problem?
     
  2. Peace macrumors Core

    Peace

    Joined:
    Apr 1, 2005
    Location:
    Space--The ONLY Frontier
  3. MorphingDragon macrumors 603

    MorphingDragon

    Joined:
    Mar 27, 2009
    Location:
    The World Inbetween
    #3
    Go see a therapist, you may have social anxiety issues...

    :D
     
  4. TSE thread starter macrumors 68030

    Joined:
    Jun 25, 2007
    Location:
    St. Paul, Minnesota
    #4
    Lol. Do you really think I do? Can't be... :p
     
  5. mrsir2009 macrumors 604

    mrsir2009

    Joined:
    Sep 17, 2009
    Location:
    Melbourne, Australia
    #5
    Which will help anything... how?
     
  6. MorphingDragon macrumors 603

    MorphingDragon

    Joined:
    Mar 27, 2009
    Location:
    The World Inbetween
    #6
    By magical fairy dust!!!
     
  7. Sankersizzle macrumors 6502a

    Sankersizzle

    Joined:
    Jun 5, 2010
    Location:
    Canadadada
    #7
    I know a few cats like this. For them (maybe you too?) it's all about the thrill of the hunt. They'll do everything they can to get these girls to like them, bone them once or twice and then never talk to them again. Apparently, once the feeling is mutual they peace out.

    Go on, have your fun. There's nothing wrong with you, I feel. Maybe you build up the idea of a relationship with the girl so much in your head, that when it comes to fruition it doesn't live up to expectations and you're disappointed as a result.

    When you find a girl that you really want to stay with after the feeling is mutual -you know you have your keeper.
     
  8. Mousse macrumors 68000

    Mousse

    Joined:
    Apr 7, 2008
    Location:
    Flea Bottom, King's Landing
    #8
    Well, guys (not Man, Guy. There's a distinction. Read Dave Barry;)) tend to lose interest in a girl after a "home run." He's just be following all the steps of a guy's relationship...only not in the right order.:p
     
  9. Mord macrumors G4

    Mord

    Joined:
    Aug 24, 2003
    Location:
    UK
    #9
    I've done this a few times, it boils down to wanting what I can't have though the attraction tends to die after actually having slept with them, which has at times been pretty inconvenient as they were still very interested. It didn't happen with my longer lasting relationships as there was actually something there rather than just physical attraction.

    Were I to date now I'm sure I'd do the same with a fair few people until I found someone right, I wouldn't beat yourself up about it unless you're suddenly uninterested in people you logically think you really should still be into?
     
  10. tech4all macrumors 68040

    tech4all

    Joined:
    Jun 13, 2004
    Location:
    NorCal
    #10
    Yea that works :rolleyes:

    Is that what they call it now?
     
  11. Mord macrumors G4

    Mord

    Joined:
    Aug 24, 2003
    Location:
    UK
    #11
    Yes, yes it does.

    :)
     
  12. MattAtlanta macrumors member

    Joined:
    Jul 27, 2012
    #12
    it sounds like you're obviously more interested in the "idea" of being with someone, and once the chase occurs and getting the object of your affection comes to fruition, you are no longer interested.

    is there something that usually happens when you become disinterested?
     
  13. TSE thread starter macrumors 68030

    Joined:
    Jun 25, 2007
    Location:
    St. Paul, Minnesota
    #13
    This happened just yesterday.

    Girl I met at college who just happens to live in the Twin Cities. She accepts me for who I am, knows I have problems but fully accepts it. I really liked her and was trying to get her this summer.

    I go to my lake last night and invite her and her best buddy (who happens to be gay). We have a few drinks. Her buddy asks me if I like her, I say yes. He says she likes me a lot too and she always talks about me with him and her other friends.

    Go to cuddle with her last night while we both falling asleep. Wake up, realize I don't like her anymore, although I liked her for about 6 months before last night.
     
  14. dukebound85 macrumors P6

    dukebound85

    Joined:
    Jul 17, 2005
    Location:
    5045 feet above sea level
    #14
    Doesn't matter, got laid
     
  15. LostSoul80 macrumors 68020

    LostSoul80

    Joined:
    Jan 25, 2009
    #15
    The key is her friend. Your subconscious is yelling it.
     
  16. MattAtlanta macrumors member

    Joined:
    Jul 27, 2012
    #16
    well that is interesting... sounds like a fear of commitment.

    you have this idyllic picture about you and said other, and then when confronted with moving from "fantasy" to reality this becomes more than you're willing to pursue... too much effort is required at this point.

    and perhaps, this might stem from a reluctance to want to open yourself up to being vulnerable.

    this is not uncommon, as i've experienced this problem myself. i would imagine that it's nice to get the confirmation of knowing that the person you took a shining to likes you or is interested in you as well, but beyond that, you're ready to move on to someone else.
     
  17. Sankersizzle macrumors 6502a

    Sankersizzle

    Joined:
    Jun 5, 2010
    Location:
    Canadadada
    #17
    Maybe you're of the gay and you don't know it yet?
     
  18. Abstract macrumors Penryn

    Abstract

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2002
    Location:
    Location Location Location
    #18
    Just go against your instincts and go after her anyway. After all, you know you're being irrational, so just go ask her out. It'll pay off in the end because you know you'll end up with a girl you actually like, regardless of what your brain is telling you right now.


    And you'll get laid.
     
  19. Melrose Suspended

    Melrose

    Joined:
    Dec 12, 2007
    #19
    and/or masturbate. Problem solved. For about 2 hours. :p

    I realize that OPs are, by all known internet laws, in on dat f*g*y time, I think in this instance we can forego that hypothesis. Give the man some benefit of doubt.
     
  20. MattAtlanta macrumors member

    Joined:
    Jul 27, 2012
    #20

    this is hilarious though... it actually made me almost spit out my beer. lol
     

Share This Page