The specs are all there to see on intel.com mate.
http://www.intel.com/content/www/us/en/processors/core/CoreTechnicalResources.html
Page 29 if you want to look at the data sheets. They make no mention of this restriction you suggest. If it were true, they would say so.
If you have an 8GB stick and and 4GB stick, it is true that you will get 2x4GB interleaved and 4GB not. But with 2 8GB sticks (in the correct slots) you get full speed dual channel memory performance. Similarly 4 x 8GB stick - no problem.
EDIT: I think I may owe you an apology. I thought you were saying that you never get dual channel speeds with more than 8GB of memory. That's how I read it. If you were merely saying that you only get dual channel mode with the smaller of the two amounts in each channel, then yes, I agree.