mac osx with touchpad

hi how do you find all the windows in mac osx with touchpad on mbp. In windows every window is listed in the tab bar so you can just easily click it.

but in mac osx only the minimized windows are listed, all the active windows are not in the taskbar. So if i have 3 safari windows open they sit on top of each other, it's such a pain in the rear to find the one i am looking for. With a mac mouse, i can click the left/right buttons on the side at the same time to brnig up sort of a preview then click on the window i want but what to do with a touchpad?

also how come the green + button doesnt maximize the app window to the full size of the laptop screen, it only makes it slightly bigger.

Everyone keep saying mac os x is so user friendly, but i find windows so much easier to use, for one i have a complete list of all running apps in my bottom bar i can click, with os x it's like playing hide and seek trying to find an open window that's hidden under another open window...