The ram that came from the 5,1 Mac Pro, do you mean the ram is PC3-10600 DDR3 at 1333Mhz ? If it came from the 5,1 Mac Pro you can install the ram though if your processor is a quad core single socket or an 8 core dual socket, your 4,1 Mac Pro will read the ram as 1066Mhz speed and will work fine. If your processor is a 6 core, single socket, your Mac will read it at 1333Mhz.
I'm running 1866MHz RAM in my 4,1 because I had some handy when I got the Pro. It automatically clocked down to 1066MHz and has been running fine for 6 months or so. It should ramp up to 1333MHz when I eventually get around to dropping a 6 Core X5680 or X5690 into the box.
This is a question i was going to ask as well - so as a folowup, is the speed dependent on the processor or the firmware - ie is there any point to doing the 5.1 upgrade on a 4.1 with 1300 ram, if its still got the original cpus?