MacBook Pro v Wife

[organerito]

Something tells me that those who are that outraged or hold such strong opinions might either not be married or may already be going through at least their first divorce.
Whether she takes care of her computers or not is truly no one’s business. Some people appear even more outraged than the original poster.
Sometimes, it feels like some are more Catholic than the Pope!
For context, I’ve been with my wife for 19 years, and we have four children.

 

[turbineseaplane]

MacBook Pro vs Wife

Always side with Wife

 

[darngooddesign]

MacBook Pro vs Wife

Always side with Wife

Upgrading your wife is much more expensive than MBP. 🤣

 

[Scepticalscribe]

MacBook Pro vs Wife

Always side with Wife

Agreed.

And the very title of the thread is rather telling.

 

[okkibs]

Imagine if OP found out you can clean off fingerprints... and I too have some scratches in my display but I only see them on a black screen at an angle when I am cleaning it. During actual use these admittedly relatively small scratches aren't visible. I wouldn't be surprised if this display looking just as pristine in actual use as before once cleaned spotless.

 

[JamesMay82]

Something tells me that those who are that outraged or hold such strong opinions might either not be married or may already be going through at least their first divorce.
Whether she takes care of her computers or not is truly no one’s business. Some people appear even more outraged than the original poster.
Sometimes, it feels like some are more Catholic than the Pope!
For context, I’ve been with my wife for 19 years, and we have four children.

Correct! It was all a bit tongue in cheek!

I’m surprised the outrage, I grew up with the home improvement Tim Allen show so it’s that sense of humour, which is still main stream in modern comedy. Perhaps I didn’t word my original post well.

Yes I was annoyed she damaged screen within a week… Did we have an argument? No! We had a jokey back and forth about she doesn’t look after things… like I said we are married 18 years.

The reason for my post.. a bit of venting and curious if any of your partners were the same..

We also have the same discussions about her car… she has the nice new family car and I have a 10 year old Kia and a 20 year old work truck which are both spotless.. her lovely new car has the record of 20 1 litre Evian bottles.. all her friends make fun of her for it.. it’s just her thing…

Anyway, I’ll now return to my role as the perfect, infallible husband and flawless human being 😂

 

[GMShadow]

Correct! It was all a bit tongue in cheek!

I’m surprised the outrage, I grew up with the home improvement Tim Allen show so it’s that sense of humour, which is still main stream in modern comedy. Perhaps I didn’t word my original post well.

Yes I was annoyed she damaged screen within a week… Did we have an argument? No! We had a jokey back and forth about she doesn’t look after things… like I said we are married 18 years.

The reason for my post.. a bit of venting and curious if any of your partners were the same..

We also have the same discussions about her car… she has the nice new family car and I have a 10 year old Kia and a 20 year old work truck which are both spotless.. her lovely new car has the record of 20 1 litre Evian bottles.. all her friends make fun of her for it.. it’s just her thing…

Anyway, I’ll now return to my role as the perfect, infallible husband and flawless human being 😂

I'm a bit surprised at the pearl clutching in this thread too, honestly. Some people just need to feel superior I guess.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Correct! It was all a bit tongue in cheek!

I’m surprised the outrage, I grew up with the home improvement Tim Allen show so it’s that sense of humour, which is still main stream in modern comedy. Perhaps I didn’t word my original post well.

Yes I was annoyed she damaged screen within a week… Did we have an argument? No! We had a jokey back and forth about she doesn’t look after things… like I said we are married 18 years.

The reason for my post.. a bit of venting and curious if any of your partners were the same..

We also have the same discussions about her car… she has the nice new family car and I have a 10 year old Kia and a 20 year old work truck which are both spotless.. her lovely new car has the record of 20 1 litre Evian bottles.. all her friends make fun of her for it.. it’s just her thing…

Anyway, I’ll now return to my role as the perfect, infallible husband and flawless human being 😂

The thing is, what is considered "humour" is both subjective, and, quite often, culturally specific, as well.

Moreover, humour doesn't always translate well online, and the tone and content of your original post were every bit as intemperate as some of the offerings on, for example, the iPhone threads on this forum.

In other words, there was no reason not to take your original post literally.

And, whatever about the supposed wit (and, personally, I still don't think it remotely funny), the actual key point of disagreement discussed in the thread still stands.

If you give a gift to someone, then, it is no longer yours.

Another question occurs, and this is simply something to ask yourself: I will ask whether your desire to vent would have been expressed quite so passionately had you given a gift - perhaps, subsequently scratched, or chipped, or smudged, but certainly not treated with kid gloves - to a boss, someone senior, or someone whose favour you may have wished to cultivate, rather than to a spouse, significant other, or partner.

 

[Allen_Wentz]

I’ve had my 14 inch pro for 12 months with not a single mark on it! Flawless screen.

My wife’s MacBook m1 Air broke so I used the opportunity to hand down the 14 pro and get me a new machine.

1 week later scratches and marks galore on this once beautiful machine!

I gave a big lecture and insisted it’s left at home and she iPads it at work and still it’s ruined!

She basically rests her iPhone on MacBook screen and it’s marked it all over!

Anyone else is the same boat! I’m gutted after keeping it so clean for so long 🤦‍♂️

See a shrink about your OCD. Once it is no longer your machine and is being used by someone else you have no say in the matter. Giving "a big lecture and insisted it’s left at home" is just IMO sick; certainly not conducive to familial tranquility. Seriously, see a shrink before you force that wife further away.

 

[Xand&Roby]

I get what you are saying, but at the end of the day, it’s a tool, not a piece of jewelry.
If op actually cares that much, he would’ve bought AppleCare for her.
at the end of the day, these computers are meant to be used, abused, scratched, whatever.
And no matter what, no matter if she keeps it in absolutely pristine right out of the box condition, it will lose its value. Because again, it’s not jewelry, it’s not a Rolex.

Jewelry is even more useless from a purely pragmatic and economical point of view.

Here the problem is not the object, it's the subject.

And I wouldn't have taken one like that even as a neighbor, other than a wife!

Grow up, she's not 4 years old!

 

[Xand&Roby]

Why on Earth would one ever wish to do such a thing?

In your hypothetical suggestion, you over-look a key point.

The notional jewels and bags that you advise the OP somehow deliberately damage, or scratch, do not belong to him; they are not his to destroy, damage, or scratch, but, rather, belong to her and are hers to do with as she wishes.

Thus, this nihilistic advice is nothing other than a recommendation to deliberately damage the property of someone else, something that - if carried out - would most certainly undermine the relationship between the OP - or anyone else - and a spouse, or partner, and could not be considered as motivated by anything other than spite.

And, a gift once given, is no longer yours; if the gift comes with conditions, or demands, it is not a gift, but is instead something that the donor regards as perhaps, a loan, and clearly considers that it is not the property of the person to whom it had been given.

Hey girl, you just described exactly what the wife does, that is the 4-year-old girl he took for his wife.

And the fact that you all have these likes in defending it is because you are not older either, and you behave in the same way.

Too much money, too little culture, even just environmental.

 

[Xand&Roby]

I would just add here that regardless of who this is done to, willful destruction of property is a crime. Whether that would be reported, a suspect arrested, charged, convicted and sentenced is another matter. But if someone on the street walked up to you and started to damage your property to 'teach you a lesson' it would be a criminal offense.

So, the suggestion is not only outlandish, it's illegal.

Your hypocritical concept of legality.

The damage that similar subjects continually cause in terms of material thrown away and bought back because they don't want to take charge of their mental health pairs with your hypocritical defenses because, deep down, you are no different from them.

Illegal.

You are beyond the threshold of ridicule.

 

[Xand&Roby]

Something tells me that those who are that outraged or hold such strong opinions might either not be married or may already be going through at least their first divorce.
Whether she takes care of her computers or not is truly no one’s business. Some people appear even more outraged than the original poster.
Sometimes, it feels like some are more Catholic than the Pope!
For context, I’ve been with my wife for 19 years, and we have four children.

The problem is not the computer, the problem is the subject.

One who by character breaks everything in less than 3 hours is not "too busy with more serious issues" simply has a serious mental problem that she is not facing.

And the fact that you defend her so openly because otherwise you would question your lifestyle says a lot about you, as well as about her!

 

[Xand&Roby]

I know this kind of subject perfectly, you find quintals of them around.

If you try to get to know them, you will discover the traumas behind these behaviors.

I literally saw unique pieces destroyed just for the sake of doing it a few moments after they were given away.

It is a childish behavior that concerns trauma about the alleged lack of attention of the parents.

These subjects have the same behavior with people, and unfortunately they attract to them subjects with other specific traumas that bring them closer to these people, and then be treated in the same way as objects.

Don't believe it, look around.

Money doesn't buy mental health, and as a country you should have learned it by now.

 

[organerito]

The problem is not the computer, the problem is the subject.

One who by character breaks everything in less than 3 hours is not "too busy with more serious issues" simply has a serious mental problem that she is not facing.

And the fact that you defend her so openly because otherwise you would question your lifestyle says a lot about you, as well as about her!

Are you certain that the issue lies between her and me? You don’t know either of us, yet you've already made a diagnosis.
You're free to respond or not — it doesn’t really matter to me. I’m not very active on this or any forum; I have other priorities.

 

[Xand&Roby]

Are you certain that the issue lies between her and me? You don’t know either of us, yet you've already made a diagnosis.
You're free to respond or not — it doesn’t really matter to me. I’m not very active on this or any forum; I have other priorities.

I know enough.

And yes, you definitely have other priorities.

 

[Xand&Roby]

The thing is, what is considered "humour" is both subjective, and, quite often, culturally specific, as well.

Moreover, humour doesn't always translate well online, and the tone and content of your original post were every bit as intemperate as some of the offerings on, for example, the iPhone threads on this forum.

In other words, there was no reason not to take your original post literally.

And, whatever about the supposed wit (and, personally, I still don't think it remotely funny), the actual key point of disagreement discussed in the thread still stands.

If you give a gift to someone, then, it is no longer yours.

Another question occurs, and this is simply something to ask yourself: I will ask whether your desire to vent would have been expressed quite so passionately had you given a gift - perhaps, subsequently scratched, or chipped, or smudged, but certainly not treated with kid gloves - to a boss, someone senior, or someone whose favour you may have wished to cultivate, rather than to a spouse, significant other, or partner.

You don't know the sociocultural meaning of the gift, do you?

You see, as you wrote it's a cultural problem.

When you are confronted with the evolutionary meaning of the gift for the human race you will understand what it means to destroy it in front of those who gave it to you.

There is always something to learn from this world.

 

[dyou]

I’ve had my 14 inch pro for 12 months with not a single mark on it! Flawless screen.

My wife’s MacBook m1 Air broke so I used the opportunity to hand down the 14 pro and get me a new machine.

1 week later scratches and marks galore on this once beautiful machine!

I gave a big lecture and insisted it’s left at home and she iPads it at work and still it’s ruined!

She basically rests her iPhone on MacBook screen and it’s marked it all over!

Anyone else is the same boat! I’m gutted after keeping it so clean for so long 🤦‍♂️

Wife always wins that match up

 

[Lounge vibes 05]

The problem is not the computer, the problem is the subject.

One who by character breaks everything in less than 3 hours is not "too busy with more serious issues" simply has a serious mental problem that she is not facing.

And the fact that you defend her so openly because otherwise you would question your lifestyle says a lot about you, as well as about her!

complete an utter nonsense.
and nowhere did the original post say that she “broke” anything, scratching a screen is not breaking a product.
I am almost completely blind, I have a MacBook. I cannot see the screen of that MacBook, so it’s very likely that it is covered in scratches, smudges, and fingerprints.
OP would probably throw an absolute fit if he saw the state of my MacBook. Me? Well, the thing isn’t damaged in any way that affects me so, why should I care? it’s still gonna work perfectly fine for the next 7 to 10 years.

 

[DeepSix]

Sounds like she's been throwing it down the stairs.

 

[Apple_Robert]

Correct! It was all a bit tongue in cheek!

I’m surprised the outrage, I grew up with the home improvement Tim Allen show so it’s that sense of humour, which is still main stream in modern comedy. Perhaps I didn’t word my original post well.

Yes I was annoyed she damaged screen within a week… Did we have an argument? No! We had a jokey back and forth about she doesn’t look after things… like I said we are married 18 years.

The reason for my post.. a bit of venting and curious if any of your partners were the same..

We also have the same discussions about her car… she has the nice new family car and I have a 10 year old Kia and a 20 year old work truck which are both spotless.. her lovely new car has the record of 20 1 litre Evian bottles.. all her friends make fun of her for it.. it’s just her thing…

Anyway, I’ll now return to my role as the perfect, infallible husband and flawless human being 😂

You saying your OP was a bit "tongue in cheeK' doesn't fly seeing how your own words here and elsewhere in the thread contradict the meaning of the phrase.

I see nothing joke-worthy about your self-described actions much less them being "tongue in cheek."

1) It appears you didn't truly give your wife a gift from the heart with no strings attached. You gave her a computer and then when it didn't get handled in the manner in which you would have and expected, even though it was no longer yours, you chided your wife and told her since she isn't you and doesn't treat the tool like a priceless work of art, she can no longer travel with it and must use the iPad instead.

2) You got so mad at your wife, you thought it would be a good idea to come on the forum and talk bad about her to others. And while you were doing so, you thought, why not see if there are other people who like to engage in the same bad behavior as yourself. The problem is you see nothing wrong with your actions.

In my opinion, a man who loves and respects his wife doesn't talk down to her, berate her, or talk bad about her to others.

I think all of this is really sad, especially from an adult.

 

[eyoungren]

Yes I was annoyed she damaged screen within a week… Did we have an argument? No! We had a jokey back and forth about she doesn’t look after things… like I said we are married 18 years.

That's where you have to know your audience and also be willing to die on the hill you're defending (or attacking from).

My wife isn't so forgiving with criticisms disguised as jokes. She tends to hit back with reminders of how I f*ed up and she tends to not be joking when she says it. Considering that I made most of the mistakes in our relationship, she has a lot to throw back at me. It can go from 'humorous' to War of the Roses pretty fast.

 

[Teletypewriter]

Consider that your wife's laptop is operating in a hostile working environment. I would add a DBRAND skin to help protect the outside of the laptop (with your wife's help in picking a design & color). I would also buy a screen protector and maybe a keyboard cover. Finally, I would get a laptop sleeve, or a very good leather bag to protect it from the weather. Supporting traveling sales people is the same as supporting spouses. Good luck.

 

[Analog Kid]

"Insisted"?

I’m still licking wounds from the last time I “suggested”…

 

[JamesMay82]

That's where you have to know your audience and also be willing to die on the hill you're defending (or attacking from).

My wife isn't so forgiving with criticisms disguised as jokes. She tends to hit back with reminders of how I f*ed up and she tends to not be joking when she says it. Considering that I made most of the mistakes in our relationship, she has a lot to throw back at me. It can go from 'humorous' to War of the Roses pretty fast.

Yeah this clearly isn’t the place! My wife is a good sport unless I catch her on a bad day and then she reminds me of my mistakes and faults..

I even told her about this post and she laughed and just made a joke about OCD with tech and other things!

All part of life - but one I’ll probably keep off this forum given the reaction