a lot of you are really really dumb, like insanely dumb, retarded even. You have no idea what is going on with this person's family, yet you come in here giving advice on how to be a parent and what he or she shouldn't do. Shut up, all of you, most of you probably don't even have kids and are mad at your parents for doing exactly what this person is doing. What if his kids are doing drugs? O let them be junkies just don't invade their personal space, this kind of stuff comes with being a parent and it is your JOB to know what they are doing and to PROTECT them.
as for helping the op out, sorry I can't
just my .02 cents
QUOTED FOR THE MOTHA BLEEPING WIN!!!
Reading through this thread made me sick with how people came in here trying to give this male/female advice on how to run HIS family. Nobody, NOBODY, knows this situation better then the person involved and he is taking the necessary actions that are required for the way his daughter is acting. As i read through this thread my stomach got sick with some of the peoples responses in here ( I wont point anybody out) and it confirmed why I believe kids these days get into more stupid trouble then I did as a kid or disrespect their parents and think they are on some high horse, and believe they are above or equal to the parent. Parents have gone soft and feel they need to be more friends with their kids and not so much parents.
I get it. You want to be more in tune with your kid. You want to be looked at as cool. But remember, if your kids see you as one of them, they will lose a level of respect for you and wont be intimidated by you if they dont see you as an authority figure (which you should be viewed as one). Thats why sometimes I believe that we need to go back to an old school parenting style to teach these kids some lessons.
As a kid if I acted up, my parents would smack some sense to me if I acted up.
Did I turn out bad? Let me put it to you this way. I love my parents more for that, they taught me what it took to make it in this world, and how to carry myself with respect and to respect others.
So needless to say, all that crap about how if you are a tyrant to your kids or beat them up will mess up your kid, I dont believe in that. its a case by case basis those things.
There are ways of running a family with a sense of an "iron fist" and still letting them know you love them and you are doing it because you want to protect them from the dangers in the world
they are called kids for a reason people, and to the kids that believe that they are entitled to something....
WRONG.
Your mommy/daddy brought you into this world. Respect that. Dont just say it, show it with your actions.
ok....I know I got off topic
But OP I also read what you found on that phone, and I hope others saw it too cause it shows you had good reason to go through her stuff and you possibly saved some lifes in the process. For what it counts, I believed you had good reason to go through her stuff (most good parents do) and I dont even know you. intuition from reading your post.
cheers
