My friend is 19 and a millionaire....

[haiggy]

Sounds like you just want some money as a reward for your friendship. That's pretty poor form if you ask me. I bet he gets people being phoney with him all the time now that he has some dollars, no wonder he bailed.

I like your friend, he has made some money but has his feet on the ground. He is a numbers man and I expect he understands money much more than most.

A real friend would not want money or gifts just because.

That's not really what I want. Yeah it would be nice, but no. Nobody would refuse money. The poster above you understands. I was never phoney with him, never asked for money. I'm just saying it changed him in my opinion and came here to ask what you would do if you won lots of money... would you change or would you stick close to your friends.... let them enjoy it too or bail on them just because you now have money?

Sounds like you don't value your friendships very much if you were to get a huge chunk of change and just bail.

Maybe opinions also differ depending on age. When you're 19/20 that is A LOT of money, so much I wouldn't know what to do with it other than invest and stuff. I'd want to have fun with it as well. Maybe older people would just want it to be able to retire... well he's never worked a day in his life.

 

[trule]

Sounds like you don't value your friendships very much if you were to get a huge chunk of change and just bail.

Your friend sounds pretty reasonable, responsible and very modest to me, and from the sounds of things you are the one obsessing about money which is probably why he bailed.

If I came into some money and my best friend stated asking what I was going to do with it all, I would bail too because I don't need that kind of hassle - its annoying and its uncomfortable.

 

[Eanair]

I didn't grow up in a very privileged household financially, and many of the school and afterschool programs and activities I participated in allowed me in on scholarship. I've always said that if I ever fall into more money than I know what to do with, I could give very generous checks to the programs and activities that gave me scholarships when I was little to let me participate so that other kids in similar socio-economic positions could have opportunities to partake as well.

EDIT: As to if I would give my friends cash, that's a tough one. If any of them were in a situation where they needed some cash for an emergency, of course. But just to write a check out of the blue? I don't know. I would be afraid that if I wrote a check out of the blue and gave it to my friends, they might interpret it as a show off gesture of me flaunting my money, or perhaps think that I perceive them as in need of a handout. On the other hand, if they asked for money first, that's another can of worms. Would I think they just saw me as an ATM now? Or that they were placing more emphasis on the money than me? It probably depends on the personalities of everyone. Perhaps it would be less awkward if you gave a large chunk of change during a gift giving holiday or birthday or special event like an engagement, wedding, etc.

 

[haiggy]

Your friend sounds pretty reasonable, responsible and very modest to me, and from the sounds of things you are the one obsessing about money which is probably why he bailed.

If I came into some money and my best friend stated asking what I was going to do with it all, I would bail too because I don't need that kind of hassle - its annoying and its uncomfortable.

I never asked him what he was going to do with it. I never said anything about money to him except for "CONGRATULATIONS". Plus, I never needed to ask him what he was going to do with it... everybody else did. TV reporters, newspaper journalists, etc... that's how I found out he planned on buying a used car in the first place.

Yes, he's on his feet, being smart about it. I agree and I probably would be too, just not to the same degree. Which is why I'm asking to what DEGREE everybody else would go.

You're making assumptions.

 

[marbles]

lol Nice comment, great stuff.

I'm sorry but I was just referring to the fact that he is a smart guy - he could change the world in some way. Instead he's just essentially taking money from other people, etc. I wouldn't say that poker makes the world a better place, would you?

Sure he has to be smart to win, and good on him but to just win lots of money, not finish school, never have a job... to me that is a waste of a person's intelligence that could be used somehow for some good.

Thanks for your opinion



Sorry to hear that you're kind of in the same boat. Yeah he was my best friend for sure. Now communication is down to nothing. Sure friends move on, move, etc... but I lost the friend to gambling and what would be the worst part is he doesn't feel like he's missing out on anything.

He is smart with numbers, that does not make him smart with people or anything else for that matter, maybe he could change the world? maybe not, maybe you could, maybe me ....who knows, anyone could change the world ....and often does.
Shame your friend moved on for you but it seems you & this guy were not best friends after all otherwise he wouldn't have just cut you out of his life ( which is what your sayin,.. isnt it ?) unless he had reason too and only you know how good a friend you was to him .




To the original question; I guess I'd just invest it, but not in a bank. Oh...I'd do an upgrade in one or two areas too

 

[haiggy]

He is smart with numbers, that does not make him smart with people or anything else for that matter, maybe he could change the world? maybe not, maybe you could, maybe me ....who knows, anyone could change the world ....and often does.
Shame your friend moved on for you but it seems you & this guy were not best friends after all otherwise he wouldn't have just cut you out of his life ( which is what your sayin,.. isnt it ?) unless he had reason too and only you know how good a friend you was to him .

Good point, but we were really good friends. He just kinda slowly faded away and now its just at the point where he's gone essentially. When we hung out that one time this year, he said it was really fun and he missed it all.... but then I heard nothing later about wanting to hang out again. Back to poker. So I dunno... now his friends are all just other poker players and he's met lots of other people.

 

[Abstract]

If I won that much money, I'd have just enough to be able to an SSD from Apple. I don't know what else I'd buy. Perhaps I'd still have enough for a low-end Kia?


And no, I don't think I'd give my friends cash. At all. We're still friends, but what do I owe my friends other than my time? That's what they've given me, and that's all I'll ever want from them.

I didn't grow up in a very privileged household financially, and many of the school and afterschool programs and activities I participated in allowed me in on scholarship. I've always said that if I ever fall into more money than I know what to do with, I could give very generous checks to the programs and activities that gave me scholarships when I was little to let me participate so that other kids in similar socio-economic positions could have opportunities to partake as well.

That's really cool. It'll keep kids busy, and perhaps out of trouble. It's also a great way to make decent friends and develop some skills.

 

[GimmeSlack12]

i suppose I can slightly understand the "hard to not be jealous" thing. But seriously, don't. Let it go and be happy for your friend. Just be the same dude you've always been with him and you guys will always be bros.

Aside from that, if it was ME that had $1M+ I'd be hesitant to do anything until I could exactly comprehend how much I had. As for kickdowns to friends I would likely stay away from doing that just because you'll likely stir up people from out of the woodworks asking for handouts.

I'd take care of all my family though.

 

[haiggy]

i suppose I can slightly understand the "hard to not be jealous" thing. But seriously, don't. Let it go and be happy for your friend. Just be the same dude you've always been with him and you guys will always be bros.

Aside from that, if it was ME that had $1M+ I'd be hesitant to do anything until I could exactly comprehend how much I had. As for kickdowns to friends I would likely stay away from doing that just because you'll likely stir up people from out of the woodworks asking for handouts.

I'd take care of all my family though.

Yeah, I know that's what I tell myself. It's hard not to be jealous but when I think about it I have no reason to be. My life is fine! I'm still the same person I was before he won the money, and still treat him accordingly.

I'd give a bit to friends, you do make a good point though about stirring things up with others. I'd for sure take care of my family as well.

 

[marbles]

Yeah, I know that's what I tell myself. It's hard not to be jealous but when I think about it I have no reason to be. My life is fine! I'm still the same person I was before he won the money, and still treat him accordingly.

I'd give a bit to friends, you do make a good point though about stirring things up with others. I'd for sure take care of my family as well.

I guess this is what it comes down to, you would "give a bit to friends".

Maybe he doesn't see things the same way you do, everyone's different, I guess he just moved on and got further/deeper into a circle of people who became friends and who partake in the same thing he is obviously 'born to do' and loves(I imagine). You apparently are not that into poker so....

It's hard when friends move on from you, I know... been there done that a few times...and probably will be there again sometime(hopefully not too soon) ... everyone moves on at sometime or another, sometime that moving on brings us back together, sometimes not. Sorry your feeling it, good luck.

 

[trule]

I never asked him what he was going to do with it. I never said anything about money to him except for "CONGRATULATIONS". Plus, I never needed to ask him what he was going to do with it... everybody else did. TV reporters, newspaper journalists, etc... that's how I found out he planned on buying a used car in the first place.

Yes, he's on his feet, being smart about it. I agree and I probably would be too, just not to the same degree. Which is why I'm asking to what DEGREE everybody else would go.

You're making assumptions.

Its a funny thing, people sometimes ask for things without realising it. Based on your obsession with him spending money in this thread...on you...I would guess he got the vibe. Who goes around calculating what percentage of 3Mill 10K is, I mean really, is that the expected friendship bribe these days?

You could just be upset at loosing a friend, but with all the drama and post editing I would guess there is more to it...the only thing better than money to ruin a friendship is a girl. I know about that one ...

 

[Keebler]

lol Nice comment, great stuff.

I'm sorry but I was just referring to the fact that he is a smart guy - he could change the world in some way. Instead he's just essentially taking money from other people, etc. I wouldn't say that poker makes the world a better place, would you?

Sure he has to be smart to win, and good on him but to just win lots of money, not finish school, never have a job... to me that is a waste of a person's intelligence that could be used somehow for some good.

Thanks for your opinion



Sorry to hear that you're kind of in the same boat. Yeah he was my best friend for sure. Now communication is down to nothing. Sure friends move on, move, etc... but I lost the friend to gambling and what would be the worst part is he doesn't feel like he's missing out on anything.

wow. i've read this thread and you sound jealous. Maybe that's natural - i've never know anyone personally who have had such a successful career.

As for your comments that it's just poker and it's taking money from ppl.

it's entertainment.

i'm NOT a gambler...rarely gamble in a casino and I suck at card games, but look at the tv commercials, the websites and the tv tournaments - it's entertainment. Maybe it's not ending world hunger, but alot of things don't do that on a larger level so big deal.

people pay to get entertained and he's being successful at it. I think that's great.

As for suggesting that you would buy iphones for your friends and pay for their contracts, it sure sounds like you wish he would do that?

In the end, I think you have one thing to do (if you haven't done it already)...call him up and let he know you miss the old times. Maybe you can hook up the next time he's in the area. If not, then just let it go and maybe things will work out later.

People do move on unfortunately. There are greater tools such as email and facebook to keep in touch, but if people don't make the time, it won't matter.

 

[kastenbrust]

It doesn't matter how much money you have, it matters what you do with it.

 

[miniConvert]

OP sounds a little bitter

Congratulations to your mathematically minded friend. It sounds like he found a perfect and highly lucrative channel for expressing his skills

FWIW, it's difficult being young and loaded. You do loose touch with people, even if you didn't mean to. Maybe you'll catch up with him again at some point in the future. Don't expect anything from him, though.

 

[haiggy]

I guess some people understand, others don't. That's expected I guess. This is the internet after all. I don't want him to buy me an iPhone and pay for the contract. It was an example... seeing as this is an Apple forum. What better example? I'm not even saying I need anything to be his friend or feel like I DESERVE anything. I'm saying... would you give anything to your friends?


What does post editing have to do with anything? A lot of times I submit my reply and then edit it right away instead of reading it over and submitting it.

 

[garybUK]

If i'd have won that damn euromillions jackpot at the weekend i'd have made sure all my family and closest friends were all sorted money wise but would try to not let it come inbetween friendships (as shown here)

I'd see how fast i could get the sack from my job and do something i always wanted to do (become an astronomer)

I probably could resist ordering a Aston Martin V12 Vantage in royal blue and a Morgan for the weekends

But i think the old Cliche is right, money changes/corrupts (you decide)

 

[sushi]

I'm not even saying I need anything to be his friend or feel like I DESERVE anything.

Your posts convey the exact opposite.

Anyhow, who cares how much your friend has made or will make? That should not be a factor in your friendship.

Friendship cannot be forced. It will only happen if both parties want it to happen. Your attitude may be pushing your friend away.

FWIW, through out your lifetime you change and your friends will change. It's only natural for individuals to gravitate towards other individuals that share their interests. So it's natural for your friend to develop new friends based upon what he does.

I'm saying... would you give anything to your friends?

Probably not. As the more you give the more you begin to wonder why your friend is hanging around you. Is it because they are your friend, or is it because you have money and give them things.

 

[Lord Blackadder]

More power to him!

If a million pounds was to magically fall into my lap tomorrow I'd buy a shack by the sea and grow a big, bushy beard to compliment it.

You could be Joaquin Phoenix's neighbor!

 

[dukebound85]

op, you need to deal with the fact that your friend in wealthy by playing a game and that he doesnt have to give you anything

this whole thread sounds as if you are looking down on how he obtained his money and then say he should get you things for being his friend

 

[notjustjay]

what you would do if you won lots of money... would you change or would you stick close to your friends.... let them enjoy it too or bail on them just because you now have money?

Certainly a good question, and one that a lot of people think they would answer correctly, until it happens, and suddenly they find it a lot harder. It's true that money (and power) corrupts.

I would certainly not value my money over my friendships to the point of bailing on them. I think it's a common fantasy (and one played out in lottery commercials) that big-ticket winners would spite their boss and walk off the job that very minute. I wouldn't do that. I like my job! I also have no illusions of the money being enough to last "forever" so I would certainly not start a spending spree either.

I WOULD expect to suddenly have "friends" who want handouts, and I doubt they would be my friends very long once I saw their true motivations. But it would be that their attitudes changed, not vice versa.

Would I cut my friends a break now and again, offer to pay for dinner, stuff like that? Sure, I'd love to be able to be generous like that. Would I do it all the time? No, because I wouldn't want to call attention to my wealth. Should my friends start expecting me to do so, because I'm so rich? Absolutely not.

 

[marbles]

I know a guy who is quite financially sound, he's been told he dresses like a tramp and should have this car or that or a bigger house ...all that kind of thing. He dresses for occasion when need arise but mostly no concern for clothing etc ..but you know he said he can figure out people so much easier doing things without showing his wealth through his clothing or whatever.

 

[temetrepo]

Sounds like you just want some money as a reward for your friendship. That's pretty poor form if you ask me. I bet he gets people being phoney with him all the time now that he has some dollars, no wonder he bailed.

I like your friend, he has made some money but has his feet on the ground. He is a numbers man and I expect he understands money much more than most.

A real friend would not want money or gifts just because.

that's the same way i understood his post. me personally i don't care about my friends money; all i care is about their friendship, and i have a few that have won a few lawsuits going into the millions and we still the same as when they were broke.
i also have one friend that became a famous music producer in my country and we still talk every now and then

 

[GfPQqmcRKUvP]

Anyways, long story but if you had ever won that much money what would you do with it? Would you give some of your close friends some cash? (Obviously not all of them) Keep in mind that $10k is only 0.33% of your money. Would you throw some parties? Obviously not spend or give it all away but ANYTHING? I personally believe I would but it's probably different when you're in that situation. I think it would be cool to buy my friends new cars or something.... maybe at least iPhones and pay for the contracts? Meanwhile he plans on buying like a used honda civic for himself... and

This basically says it all here. I know you think you said nothing directly, but I suspect he knows your thought processes from being friends with you for so long. If I had that amount of money, I'd definitely distance myself from ANY of my friends that engaged in the above thinking. Sorry.

 

[63dot]

Your 19 year old rich friend is young, and it will honestly take time for him to know what to do with that money. Any rash decisions can pretty much make his fortune come to an end.

Gambling (including high stakes investing), no matter how good or lucky you are, is a statistical loser if stuck to long enough. It's akin to taking more and more heroin until your heart stops. It can be an addiction for many, if not most. Unfortunately, I have seen it ruin lives.

 

[PeterQC]

If I would ever have that much money, I would gladly pay every school fees that my best friends would have. Then give a finger to the rest who could have been my friend if they wouldn't have just been ******* with me.