My mom might have breast cancer...

[katie ta achoo]

I'm so sorry to hear that...
But since it was caught early, she will pull through. There are huge strides made every day in finding a cure.

If you ever need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to IM or PM me.

 

[w_parietti22]

I'm so sorry to hear that...
But since it was caught early, she will pull through. There are huge strides made every day in finding a cure.

If you ever need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to IM or PM me.

Well... we dont know anything for sure yet. But everyones kinda uncomfortable... dinner tonight didn't strike up an conversation for like 5 minutes which is very unusal... my family is very talkitive.

 

[Chip NoVaMac]

i dont think the water guy was saying she would be healed 100%. i think he just told him to pray about it....he's not pushing faith...no harm in that.

To remind you of what he said:

I know a Physician who can cure your mother 100%. He is available 24 /7 and only requires you call on Him first.

Prayer Works!

Believe it!

Even s a person of Faith, I can not fully understand deanwaterman's comments. Is that he knows of a Doctor with a cure that barely sleeps? Or is the power of prayer the cures all?

As a person of Faith, I know that I can only pray for Divine help. If it does not come, I can only hope that it is part of the overall plan for "spiritual response". How those of us are left behind deal with the outcome, is up to us as individuals.

But deanwaterman's post bordered on false promise. Just what did "100% healed" mean? Many of the negative posts here looked upon it as an absolute "cure". Maybe that is not what deanwaterman meant.

For some giving "false" hope can be a sin.

In the end, all those that have come to this thread out of concern for a fellow MR member and a loved one can hope for is peace for all. I hope for many more years for w_parietti22 and their mother on this Earth. For I know how I feel to this day at each point of joy and sorrow since her passing 20+ years ago.

 

[EricNau]

Chip NoVaMac, that "FootPrints in the Sand" is one of my all-time favorites. It is great for motivation & hope in hard times.

 

[w_parietti22]

Chip NoVaMac, that "FootPrints in the Sand" is one of my all-time favorites. It is great for motivation & hope in hard times.

Yeah, its my favorite prayer, ever. Thanks for reminding me of it.

 

[Fukui]

Please take care of it as quickly as possible...
I've lost someone very close to me by this, and it was thought to be cured but re-appeared in the lymph nodes... and well...

I pray the best for your mom.
Please make sure she eats healthy and gets plenty of rest when she needs it.
Laughter, peace, healthy living can all have thier positive impact.

 

[Chip NoVaMac]

Thanks for the encouragement everyone. Its nice to know that people are here for me.

Hope that I can be part of that group. <g>

Luckly she had a mammogram last year and she was clean then. So its developed with in that time.

That is a good sign....

Thanks for the PM. 8th grade actually... I was put in late.

I feel for you. Different situation, but my Grandmother passed away when I was in the 10th grade. She was the rock of the family at the time. But that does not ease the pain or concern.

Im Catholic... So it's not that a big of a deal to me personally, but be careful, It is easy to affend someone in dealing with religion, race, and so on.

Agreed. I too was raised Catholic. My Faith has developed over the years. If you want to know more about my "spiritual" growth (I use "spiritual" in a broad religious basis), and dealing with what my Mom and I went through - feel free to PM me. No "conversions", just a one on one on what I have seen and heard through the years that has given me understanding of His "plan". You just have to look at some of my post here to see that there can be comfort in keeping the "Faith" that you and I were brought up with (meaning the Catholic Church - sometimes it is hard to understand what you were brought up with.

We all have to find strength in what we believe.[/quote]

Thanks again everyone

Hope you have found some words of comfort during this time of trouble and/or trial. You and yours are still in my thoughts, hopes, and prayers.

Chip

 

[EricNau]

Please take care of it as quickly as possible...
I've lost someone very close to me by this, and it was thought to be cured but re-appeared in the lymph nodes... and well...

I'm not sure this is the best time or place to say that.

 

[EricNau]

PS - w_parietti22, I know what you are going through. My Dad had pancreatic cancer when I was in the 5/6th grade (I'm in 10th now). It's hard on the whole family, but remember, no matter what happens, you have family and friends that can help you though this.

and since you are Catholic, if you ever need to talk to someone, and don't feel conformable talking to one of your parents or friends - your Father would always be willing to listen. (I'm so sorry if I used the term "Father" wrong, I'm Lutheran)

 

[Chip NoVaMac]

Yeah, its my favorite prayer, ever. Thanks for reminding me of it.

Thanks to you and Eric.

For those that followed my posts here, I have had more than my fair share of times that I felt the "burden" was on myself. So many years ago I had a lover that shared the same beliefs that I did. Today, I forget how I was given a "carved" Footprints plaque. I tend to remember it as a point in my life that I needed it most.

I am not looking for pity from those here that followed my saga. This Thanksgiving Day, I can look at many more things than any other point in my life that I should be thankful for. Many of which can be found here on MR.

Much more is the kindness and compassion that I found in day-to-day dealings.

Some can be found in my sister that set aside her feedings about my personal life, and rose above that. Or maybe it was Diane that moved Heaven and Earth to find a home for Chewey my dog, who I considered to be my child. Or maybe Kanaka my real estate agent . Heavenly Cleaning, who did what they could to get my TH sold. Or even my boss who looked past my "need" for personal time - to deal with the break up of 13+ years. In many ways he showed me that I MAY have "stayed" from what I was brought up with and truly believe in. He passed no judgments on my beliefs. He just supported that in some way that I found my way.

He left that to myself. And that is all I could ask...

Some may find "offense" in that I give these and so many others thanks. Yet each in their own way gave me a basis to go on. And so I hope thaT my trials can provide some comfort....

 

[Fukui]

I'm not sure this is the best time or place to say that.

I'm sorry if it was out of place.... just my experience was they thought it was gone and just stopped treatment - perhaps too early, which may have gave it a chance to re-appear. I wouldn't want that to happen.... just sharing my experience.

If its an inappropriate thing to say, I'm sorry.

 

[jefhatfield]

Breast Cancer is 90% treatable!!!

my only experience has been with lung cancer and unfortunately there is nothing positive I can say about that.

deanwaterman, Is the cure rate on prayer really 100%? Id like to see those statistics....

my wife went through it, breast cancer stage 3a, and is now in the preventative stage for the future...8 rounds of chemotherapy...which can reduce the recurrence by 8% percent over 30 years or until age 80

but prayer is a factor that has to do with positive attitude and even though it's impossible to quantify, it certainly can't hurt

some people are ok with surgery and a nearly 70% percent chance of success which are the current statistics with sugery alone...others need that 8% percent chance extra insurance that chemotherapy statistically adds to the equation...and others will even go through radiation therapy to up their chances another 8% percent and it's up to the individual how much they want to endure with those difficult treatments...so there's no skin off anyone's back to pray and ask others to pray on their behalf

 

[Kobushi]

That blows, I'm sorry to hear it.

I think just about every important woman in my life has had breast lumps (sometimes cancerous) at some time or another. Unfortunately, it runs in the family. If it helps (and without going into details), they're all alive, well, and cancer free.

 

[Abstract]

I know a Physician who can cure your mother 100%. He is available 24 /7 and only requires you call on Him first.

Prayer Works!

Believe it!

Now is not the time to push your beliefs on other people. He needs comfort from friends and family and good medical attention for his mother. Shameful.

I agree, but in a way, we're just putting our belief in doctors and science.

This is coming from an Atheist. In fact, I think organized religion is just.......well, I won't say........but if he or his family is religious, than to each their own.

I'm also involved in cancer treatment research, but talking and getting comfort from family and friends may be as important as getting comfort by talking to God, or possibly less important.

 

[betty02]

Hey mate, sorry to hear about your mum, my auntie got diagnosed with cancer on her kidneyr 5 weeks ago now, they said that one kidney is deffinatly dead so it will need to be removed, and if they hurry up they can save half of the other one,

we was gutted, when she went for her opperation, things turned for the worst, the cancer had spread, so you guessed it both ahd to come out, now she needs to go to the hospital every 3-5 days to get all the ***** pumped out of her bodym because she has no kidneys, she is only in her 30's,

its hard mate, trust me, tears one day smiles the next, things will never be the same, but that doesn't mean they wont be better, it took me 2 weeks before i went back out with my mates etc, when i did i still didn't feal right, she was happier then me and shes the one who had the opp, i suppose you sorta get used to it, but think of it this way, if there happy, you should be happy

Once again i send my condolences

 

[jimN]

You don't know what it is yet so tried not to get too down, although obviously it helps to be prepared. From here she'll likely be headed for mammography and biopsy so it is worth your while reading up on what those entail and getting familiar with breast cancer as a whole. I'm sure that your mum would appreciate it if someone could go with her to appointments as it is often very difficult to recall everything that is being said, especially when such serious matters are being discussed. Plus if you are familiar with elements of the diagnosis then you can ask pertinent questions. However, be sure to check the sourcing of any info that you read if it is on the internet and don't go chasing magic cures - nothing will annoy a physician more than having to explain why coffee enemas and carrot juice are not what your mother needs.

With regards to all the faith discussion (which is interesting although possibly misplaced here) I'd like to add a joke, my grandmother told it to me which is why it is clean!
A man is caught up in a flood and takes refuge on the roof of a house. Soon a tree floats past with some people on it paddling away, they invite him to join them as the waters are rising. "no thank you" he says, "God will save me." After another hour or so more people pass him in a motor boat, again he declines the invitation of rescue. "Don't worry about me, God will save me." As the water starts to lap around his toes and the house shakes beneath him imminently about to buckle from the pressure of all the water he hears the roar of a helicopter. They lower a winch and shout down for him to grab on. Once again he refuses, waving them away and shouting up that "The Lord would save him." After a while they decide they'll have to leave him and shortly after he drowns.
When the man reaches heaven he goes straight to see God and asks why he didn't save him. "I sent a tree, a boat and a helicopter, what more did you want?" came the reply.

Being positive is an important part of dealing with any illness but to assume that accepting medical help shows a lack of faith is deeply flawed. I don't believe in god myself but it doesn't take a great leap to realise that someone with faith can accept all of the help that they are offered without losing any integrity.

 

[Shaun.P]

I really hope that everything turns out to be OK.

Luckily due to advances in medicine cancer is much more treatable than it was, say 30 years ago.

I am lucky that no-one in my family has ever had cancer but I can't immagine how I would feel if someone did.

Your mom must feel even worse.

 

[betty02]

I really hope that everything turns out to be OK.

Luckily due to advances in medicine cancer is much more treatable than it was, say 30 years ago.

I am lucky that no-one in my family has ever had cancer but I can't immagine how I would feel if someone did.

Your mom must feel even worse.

Cancer is ahrd to deal with when you have it i bet, but i have only got an Auntie and and Uncle, my Nan, Grandad, Grandma and Grandad, all have past away, so my dad fears caner because his sister, (my auntie the above i was talkign about) has just had iot, so were al;l scared, but he get checked up all the time, and things are going good so foar, but yeah i hope your mom feels better soon

 

[EricNau]

Being positive is an important part of dealing with any illness but to assume that accepting medical help shows a lack of faith is deeply flawed. I don't believe in god myself but it doesn't take a great leap to realise that someone with faith can accept all of the help that they are offered without losing any integrity.

Well said. My pastor always said God gives us good doctors and good medications, etc. - Just like in your joke.

 

[4409723]

From one Wes to another, if you want to talk or anything... I'm a CS student so I check my email every 5 minutes!

 

[MarkCollette]

I hope things work out for your mom. A friend of mine had breast cancer, and she made it through, but she lost a lot of weight, and things were hard for her. I have two recommendations:

1. Potentially having cancer causes a lot of stress and emotional anxiety. Most cancer treatments wear the person down even more. Anything you can do to lighten your mom's load could help her out a lot. Simple things like doing the dishes or laundry or cleaning up for her.

2. There are a lot of foods that have been found to have anti-carcinogenic affects, meaning that eating them helps fight cancer. Food like broccoli. But there are also foods to avoid, like fat from animals, and alcohol. It might be good to research this.

 

[SurfinSHELL23]

Hey Wes -

I've seen a lot of your posts and you seem to be a very nice guy. I'm a soph in HS, and my family had the scare of a lifetime this summer. My mom got a bad fever of unknown origin, and had a low WBC count. Our family nurse practioner felt that she had lymphoma. She told my mom on the phone, "Denise, I'm really scared for you." We were terrified because my grandmom (mom's mom) died of complications relating to lymphoma just a few months after I was born. We were so scared. I remember I was playing a computer game, being lazy during the summer. My mom's a teacher so she was home with me. We were eating ice cream together when the call came and just clung to one another for so long. The next week (I think that was a Friday) we went to the oncologist and she had no cancer. Her WBCs were up to about normal.

The point us, we thought our lives were about to change forever, but everything was OK. I hope everything is OK for your family as well. You'll be in my thoughts.

-Brian

 

[w_parietti22]

Update

Good News! Turns out that my mom's tumor is not cancer! She just need to have it rumoved and she'll be fine! Thanks for the support everyone!

 

[Lau]

Good news! Really glad to hear that, mate.

 

[CanadaRAM]

Good News! Turns out that my mom's tumor is not cancer! She just need to have it rumoved and she'll be fine! Thanks for the support everyone!

Yee Haw!... good news!

Now - you know all those things that you secretly thought to yourself "_@##^ if the worst comes, we might not ever get a chance to do ______ together?" Make a list of those and go and do them now anyway.