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My Player friend

TSE

TSE

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Jun 25, 2007
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St. Paul, Minnesota
Okay, so my best friend for 7 years is a huge player. He gets a different girl every week, and for some reason they all know that but keep coming back to him.

He goes to a different school than me, and wants me to introduce him to all the girls at my school. Maybe it's jealousy, I don't know, but he's told me about 10 times in the last year,"Hey dude, let's go to a movie and invite some of the girls at your school." But I never want to, because I know what's going to happen. Last year at a hotel party for New Year's there were these two girls who were there and we introduced ourselves. One of them was single, the other had a boyfriend so both me and him decided to compete against each other as friends for the single one. Well, about an hour later I fell asleep, because I got bored and it was late and I wake up and I see my friend making out with the non-single one, which kind of pissed me off... I asked where the single one was and they said she had to leave.

Now he got a Facebook and is trying to add the girls from my school to talk to them, but I don't know how to tell him to stop without sounding like a cockblocker. Do I have the right to do this?

From this post he kind of sounds like a prick but honestly he is my best friend. One time at school I got into a huge fight with some kid and the kid got his friends to back him up so my best friend backed me up. We have so many moments together that I know he is my best friend, so don't convince me otherwise.
 
Yup, he sounds like a dick and you sound like a whiny bitch. (I'm sure neither are true) Tell him he has to respect women more than that.
 
Just wondering, do you see yourself having any sort of serious relationships with the girls he's hitting on? If not, let the player play; you know he'll lose in the long run. This may not sound helpful, but your friend sounds like half the other guys at my school (high school sophomore). If you don't like any of the girls he's interested in, let them make their own mistakes. I assume you're in high school as well, and you may not be looking for a long term relationship, but if the majority of the girls at your school will be interested in your 'friend' and his obvious pimp-ness, they don't seem like the type of girls you'd want to be with anyway.

I know I made a lot of generalizations, but I hope you find some of it helpful... :)
 
Mr. Giver '94 said:
Just wondering, do you see yourself having any sort of serious relationships with the girls he's hitting on? If not, let the player play; you know he'll lose in the long run. This may not sound helpful, but your friend sounds like half the other guys at my school (high school sophomore). If you don't like any of the girls he's interested in, let them make their own mistakes. I assume you're in high school as well, and you may not be looking for a long term relationship, but if the majority of the girls at your school will be interested in your 'friend' and his obvious pimp-ness, they don't seem like the type of girls you'd want to be with anyway.

I know I made a lot of generalizations, but I hope you find some of it helpful... :)
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Man, for a sophomore you are incredibly mature, both in this post and others I've seen. Kudos to you!

I also happen to agree with Mr. Giver.
 
wvuwhat said:
Don't hate the playa. Hate the game.
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As someone who married his HS sweetheart, I agree with this. It takes two to tango, and if girl with the bf is a ho, why stop your friend? He's having fun, the girl is having fun, let them reap the benefit/pitfalls of their own actions.

He may be treating girls like a commodity, but the girls that let him deserve it.
 
Zombie Acorn said:
Stop cockblocking.
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Yeah dude. Stop it.

Sir SpemzR said:
Learn some skills, so he actually has competition from you.
sounds u may lack some self confidence
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Sound advice.

Mr. Giver '94 said:
if the majority of the girls at your school will be interested in your 'friend' and his obvious pimp-ness, they don't seem like the type of girls you'd want to be with anyway.
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You're dead on, Mr. G. Those girls are always looking for the next best thing.



OP, it sounds like you're a little jealous of your friend's abilities......
 
All the "players" I knew in high school are all losers who still live with their parents and are working minimum wage jobs, some with no job at all. When they went to college, it was all party and no study.

My advice: let him do his thing and you do yours.
 
TSE said:
Now he got a Facebook and is trying to add the girls from my school to talk to them, but I don't know how to tell him to stop without sounding like a cockblocker. Do I have the right to do this?
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No, you don't.

Seems like someone's in need of a self-confidence check.
 
1) Ask him to help you improve your own game.
2) Tell the girls at your school that this friend has herpes.
3) ???
4) Profit!
 
TSE said:
One of them was single, the other had a boyfriend so both me and him decided to compete against each other as friends for the single one. Well, about an hour later I fell asleep, because I got bored and it was late and I wake up and I see my friend making out with the non-single one, which kind of pissed me off.
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Now that's no good at all. But yea, it sounds like this "prick" and them girls deserve each other. But actively going for a girl who was already with someone does make him sound like a bit of a prick.

Just let him be and potentially wreck his own life. You go on and find nicer girls, or blokes, or whatever.
 
While he seems to be out of control...you also sound like you're hating. Tell him what you think and let him be, if he listens-good if not you did what you could. In the interim, stop hating and start learning
 
Props to Mr. Giver for some good sound advice!! :D

To the OP, seriously I wouldn't sweat it too much; in a few years you'll be off in college/career and your buddy will be hitting bars still trying to get yum. Stuff happens...

I am curious though...did you friend have a chic who "do did him dirty" in the past? Most of the dude's I know that behave that way towards chics only do because they were hurt in the past.
 
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