- Learn how to interpret a histogram.
- Avoid taking photo's you can take any given day.
- Avoid effects (lens-, postprocessing) to enhance a photo. The picture should speak for itself.
- Compare your photo's with the professionals and learn from it. And yes, you really can make suchs photo's with the gear you have. (or close to)
- If your eyes wander over a picture, searching for a point of interest, then you probably did something wrong (cluttered, distracting background, wrong focuspoint etc.). In the real world, professionals know within 2 seconds if a photo is worth looking at or not.
- When using programs like photoshop, try to make it look natural, and not something you see in videogames. It is so much easier to overdo it, than making something look natural. Spend money on GOOD postprocessingcourses/books.
I've not yet got as far as editing my photos, maybe something for the future, obviously I'm using a mac, I've been recomended to purchase aperature? But this is something I won't be doing for a while... for now I just want to take pictures and get the hang of it, then think about editing.
Shoot with what you have now, don't worry about upgrading until you know the basics (Aperature, Shutter Speed, ISO). Read up on shooting manual mode.
This is where I'm confused I don;t understand what is what, and what results you expect from adjusting X,Y or Z
Or... if you increase/decrease X... you must increase/decrease Z
etc. etc.
I think it would be good if I could see the same picture, but different settings.
1. Learn basic camera controls
2. Learn camera terminology (F number, etc etc)
3. Learn how to use photoshop/LR/Aperture for simple enhancements, there are TONS of tutorials on the net!
When you see a style of editing you like, try and find out how it is done. I am digging a sort of 'vintage' effect at the moment so thats where my editing style leans towards.
Oh, forgot to mention... TAKE LOADS OF PHOTOS!

You will learn with each snap. The D3100 is a very light DSLR so if possible, take it around where ever you go!
step 1, 2 and 3... is what I'm currently doing... I'm still on step 1 haha... working towards step 2
Do you have any examples of your work?
I'd be interested in looking (particularly at 'un-edited' photos
The advantages of digital... LOTS of photos

as I'll just delete the rubbish ones (most of them at the mo)
Buy the book "Understanding Exposure". I recommend it to anyone who buys a DSLR and seems to actually care about learning photography.
Yes mate, I've just ordered 'd3100 digital field guide' so I look forward to reading that book first.
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Look at getting an inexpensive (125-150$) 50mm f1.8 lens. Not saying now, but at some point in the near future.
I've heard of these lenses, ones which dont zoom, but apparently the quality is AMAZING!
Why is this?
I have the D5000...I recommend getting the 55mm-200mm lens from Nikon/Nikkor. It is around $200 for a great beginner telephoto lens.
Remember, it doesn't cost you anything to take pictures, you have no film to buy or process, so take multiple shots and edit them down or delete them when you get home. For example, I went to a car show the other day and took about 350 pictures, but only have 210 after I deleted the not-so-good ones.
Just play around and have fun!
My local shop stocks a 55mm - 300mm Nikon lense, which I said I might buy when I can afford it, would a 55mm-200mm be better?
What is the difference other than the price?