Noob needs help!

Hello everyone.. This is my first post so please be kind...
The last time I used a mac was my b/w G3 in 1994 ( maxed out & in mint condition still ) so I'm more lost then a blind man with a where's waldo book!.
I do quite a bit of web development & photography.
I don't know if I'm ready to completely move over to mac as my pc is worlds above the mac mini I have. But I'd like to setup the mini up for web dev, and hopefully photography.
Currently I use "neard http://neard.io " but that won't work on the mac so I'm looking for another method.
I typically have 5 or 6 vhosts at a time and use netbeans, & phpstorm for my ide's.
I was looking at using the built in apache / php / mysql and had it going today but when I installed homebrew and upgraded php everything went to heck in a handbasket.
So, I've uninstalled ( i think ) mysql and turned off apache. I just realized I forgot to remove homebrew *sigh*.

I'm having a couple of issues...
#1 what SHOULD i be using for a LAMP stack?
i'll need apache, nodejs, php, pear, mysql/mariadb, composer, xdebug, git, phpmyadmin and HOPEFULLY a easy way to add/remove vhosts.

#2 I REALLY hate the terminal, is there a better version?
#3 I'm using teamviewer ( is there a better way? ) to remote in and none of the "control+" keys work.. like "ctrl+c" I realize its %C on the mac but my kbd doesn't have that so I'm pretty sure its ctrl.
#4 I'm having a very hard time finding things with "finder" is there a better file manager?
#5 how can I setup the user folders like "documents", "pictures" so they live on the windows drives so things are shared. I do have a homegroup on the windows side.

Lastly any good free resources for understanding OSX?
At my age It's getting harder and harder to remember things, so I think I should limit how much I try to do.
Thanks so much for being here.
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Thanks in advance

 

ok, just wasn't sure if mamp was the best choice.

it's not console that i dislike, i don't mind console at all, its the .. styling?.. behavior.. that is driving me nuts. I use git-bash quite a bit.

I was trying to figure that out.. I'll happily change if you've got a guide or something to follow?.. I would be remoting INTO the mac from the pc. Everything I found was visa-versa

I'm sure your right. For example, I installed firefox developer tonight and when I went to "applications" it wasn't there. Luckily it was in "recent" but if I want, for example, to go to the webserver/documents folder, I don't see anyway to drill down thru the harddrive to get there.

I'll look into that! ty.