Not Another Relationship Advice Thread!

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  1. apsterling, Apr 21, 2008

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    Okay, I won't try to keep you hooked, but if you're just gonna complain about relationship thread, leave now. Otherwise, I'd like some help.

    I asked a girl out about 3 months ago, and she turned me down, but was suspiciously nice about the whole thing. We kept as friends, and have started a band together, but whenever we were with our friends it was always something special and separated between us and them. I had, since her birthday, had plans to take her to Honda Civic Tour, and did just that, and afterwards when we were eating dinner at McDonald's she said (and I quote) "I don't mean to make you feel awkward, but I think things could work out between us" and then continued after my jaw dropped to say "but I'm afraid that if we were to date and break up, it could hurt our band". This was all about a week ago.

    Since then, things haven't been too much different than before. My question is, what should I do now? This is somewhat awkward for me, and I'm sure for her too. I'd like to stick with our band, but I'd also like to have the relationship that we both seem to want.

    Again, don't flame me for posting another relationship thread. If you've got nothing good to say, don't bother typing it up.
     
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  2. redwarrior, Apr 21, 2008

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    you gotta go for it
    what else is there?
    you just have to be man enough
    if it doesn't work out
    to have the band's best interest at heart
    but come on!
    really
    what else is there?
    course
    i'm a girl....:eek:
     
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  3. OzExige, Apr 21, 2008

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    Ahhh yes, but what would we do with our sorry lives if didn't get to peek inside yours and try and have you not make the mistakes we made :D

    To your problem, don't stuff around! Do it and do it now, your heart (and hers) may get broken but hell, if life was easy we wouldn't have evolved from lung fish, or whatever (and I quote) 'floats your boat'
     
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  4. StealthRider, Apr 21, 2008

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    Screw the band.

    And don't go to McDonald's lest one of you has a heart attack in bed.
     
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  5. apsterling, Apr 21, 2008

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    I'd vastly prefer to have both, but I dunno- the band might be slightly more important to her, so I don't want to drop that for her.

    And as far as McDonald's, it was the only restaurant within walking distance of the amphitheater.
     
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  6. ucfgrad93, Apr 21, 2008

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    Agreed. If you don't you will always wonder what might have been.
     
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  7. Hello.there, Apr 21, 2008

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  8. floyde, Apr 21, 2008

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    Kiss her, if it doesn't work out, make sure you don't end up in the friend zone. Screw the band, a lot of people can play instruments.
     
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  9. Leareth, Apr 21, 2008

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    Well since she is part of the band... ;)
    good advice.

    Seriously though, what is going to last longer the band or the relationship.
     
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  10. LifeIsCheap, Apr 21, 2008

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    If you don't go for it, eventually she'll end up dating someone else then you'll be pissed at her (and yourself for not giving it a go) and the band will suffer.

    Give it a go. Better to worry about something that has happened than something that may never...
     
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  11. Keebler, Apr 21, 2008

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    just give 'er eh!

    seriously, a relationship is far better than a band. you may not realize it, but it's true.

    if you like her and she likes you, why not?
     
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  12. apsterling, Apr 21, 2008

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    Thanks for all the good advice.

    Obviously in the end it's hers and my decision, but I'll keep your advice together. I'll probably wait until after tomorrow (our first true, full meeting of our band) to make a move, just to see if this entire band thing will blow over.

    The good news is, if it does blow over I can make a move.
    Bad news is she'll probably just want a duet project (but that'd work great in a relationship, anyway)
     
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  13. Telp, Apr 21, 2008

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    Depends if he asks her or not :p.
     
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  14. tMac85, Apr 21, 2008

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    go for it
     
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  15. iBlue, Apr 21, 2008

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    Go for it but don't wait too long to make your move or it will piss her off. (like, do it TODAY)
     
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  16. motulist, Apr 21, 2008

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    Strike while the iron is hot! If she's worried about the band if things don't work out, tell her that some of the greatest bands in history had members that were at odds with each other.

    pink floyd
    guns n roses
    black crows

    etc.

    By the release of Animals (1977), it was clear that Waters had become the band's dominant influence, and there was increasing internal conflict within Pink Floyd. Their sense of alienation (from both one another and contemporary society) was profoundly illustrated by the tour for 1979's best-selling album The Wall
     
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