Office Romance

beatsme

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ever had a fling with a co-worker? Did you, um...."get busy" at work?

::raises hand sheepishly::

In all seriousness, what's your take on this? Good thing or bad deal?
 

benthewraith

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beatsme said:
ever had a fling with a co-worker? Did you, um...."get busy" at work?

::raises hand sheepishly::

In all seriousness, what's your take on this? Good thing or bad deal?
Why would anyone want to get busy at work? :confused:

I think it's bad to date anyone you work with.
 

Oryan

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Generally, office romance = bad. It breaks down the authority (if one of the individuals is in a higher position) and can lead to other bad decisions being made.
 

beatsme

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miniConvert said:
work is for work! Keep your hands to yourself :D
I'm actually inclined to agree, but sometimes...well...things just happen. I'm surprised it doesn't happen more often, given the enormous amount of time people spend at work, and the stress and boredom they deal with because of it.

and people are people, after all...the thrill of getting away with it is part of the appeal...
 

iGav

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beatsme said:
ever had a fling with a co-worker? Did you, um...."get busy" at work?
Nope.

But I did with one of my students. heh.

<edit> Actually I shouldn't do her the injustice of saying it was a fling, it was much more than that. And technically she wasn't my student, as we waited until her last day. heh.
 
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I met my current bloke at work, and my ex was from a job before that. :eek: But they were both in really dreadful jobs, and I don't think it would have been the end of the world if I'd had to leave.

In a job I actually liked and wanted to stay in maybe it wouldn't have been a good idea.

And, er, yeah. We got busy. :p
 

beatsme

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iGav said:
Nope.

But I did with one of my students. heh.
see, I don't have a problem with that, per se. As long as the student is no longer in your class I don't see the harm.

um, we're talking college students, right? ;)
 

atszyman

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Oryan said:
Generally, office romance = bad.
It all depends on the size of the "office" and how segmented it is.

I met my wife at work. Mind you we're talking about a company with hundreds of engineers/finance people/human resources/etc... so there was a lot of segmentation there, and also there were many, many different projects going on. We worked on different projects and had completely different jobs, me being an engineer, she was involved in the money side of things.

While I was still working there we never worked on the same program so we weren't even close office wise. The company didn't seem to mind one way or the other, heck they even had cutesy names for couples that worked in the company. I do think that some effort was made to keep spouses (or known couples) off of the same programs to minimize issues that could arise.
 

beatsme

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atszyman said:
It all depends on the size of the "office" and how segmented it is.

I met my wife at work. Mind you we're talking about a company with hundreds of engineers/finance people/human resources/etc... so there was a lot of segmentation there, and also there were many, many different projects going on. We worked on different projects and had completely different jobs, me being an engineer, she was involved in the money side of things.

While I was still working there we never worked on the same program so we weren't even close office wise. The company didn't seem to mind one way or the other, heck they even had cutesy names for couples that worked in the company. I do think that some effort was made to keep spouses (or known couples) off of the same programs to minimize issues that could arise.
this is how mine went down. Not so big a company as yours, but we worked in different departments and had virtually no interaction business-wise. Granted, I was a bit further up in the hierarchy, but not in management and I had absolutely no say in how or what she was assigned.
 

emw

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I had a "fling" I suppose you'd call it with a girl I worked with over the summer. It was my summer job but her "real" one. She'd just graduated and taken the job, and I was headed into my senior year. There was no authority issue as we were in different departments, so I suppose it was okay. We broke it off after the summer, but it was fun those couple of months - although we never "got busy" while at work.

We actually hooked up again years later and lived together for awhile. Weird. But I haven't seen or talked to her in probably 10 years.
 

iGav

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beatsme said:
um, we're talking college students, right? ;)
University... only a 3 year age gap too, which makes me sound like less of a dirty old man. ;)
 

beatsme

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I'm wondering...

I don't mean this in an argumentative or belittling/insulting way, but just out of curiosity...

those of you who say it's a bad deal:
have you ever had the opportunity presented to you?
 

beatsme

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iGav said:
University... only a 3 year age gap too, which makes me sound like less of a dirty old man. ;)
yea...3 years isn't so much. I was (still am) in my 30's, and she was I guess 23 or 24 at the time. Wonder if that makes me a dirty old man...