I came on with a similar question. I just tried in vain installing 4GB of RAM I bought from Newegg. Nothing but black screen at startup. DId i buy the wrong RAM or is it defective?
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16820227251&Tpk=OCZ2M8004GK
Well, technically it's the wrong RAM...it's 800 MHz, but the latest MBP takes 667 MHz RAM. But in theory (I haven't been following memory developments recently, so I don't know the specifics here), the RAM should work fine and simply downclock to 667 MHz. However, there is at least one report in the reviews there at Newegg from a Penryn MBP user saying that it doesn't work in that machine while it does work in an older MBP.