Apparently this is a problem with grey accent colors. Because it works with other accent colors:I did ⌘+A for the Menu Bar Paper otherwise it's very hard to see the selection colour.
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It is strange because I don't set the menu bar view to do anything differently (for other colors of accent color, it looks the same in a normal window and in the menu bar). I will investigate further. Thanks!