I fully understand. I got into it because of having to move 50 miles away for work. So I lived in two homes, mine and the company provided. It provided a good security measure for both. Now I am in one house and I’m enjoying the system but it has their quirks.By now in wall branded switches are still mostly dumb, and/or expensive, I looked into them, I live in Europe, there's 1 brand that's in the "friends" of Hue" program (Niko) but sadly their design is not to my liking and doesn't fit my other (new) switches.
I completely renewed all my in wall switches/power outlets (apartment rebuilt), was time for me to chose smart ones but it was, or too expensive, didn't like the design ,wasn't up to the job.
It's still nearly impossible to find a good solution for reasonable money, if you grow money on a tree though....
Most brands have their own automation, most of them are too difficult even though I am an electrical engineer myself.
My Philips hue doesn't seem to like my network gear either, I have Ubiquiti gear, great stuff, probably a config problem.
Have nothing but trouble with them, I will find a better way I am sure, Hue is expensive for what it does, and it does it's job just barely.
The old saying is innovators have a knive stuck in their back. Time will sorted out.